Fearne Cotton

And I was like, why am I doing it?

I know I'm doing it.

I was so aware in the moment that I was doing it.

The only way I could turn it around was just to go, really sorry that I had a tantrum.

And I'm just really tired.

And that's where I'm at today.

And that's my first step into the humbling notion of making that change in that habit.

Because...

we're all so hardwired to just do the thing that actually doesn't help us out in the long run.

I hadn't really thought of it because I was weirdly talking to one of my friends who's in therapy at the moment.

I mean, I go to therapy, so we talk about it a lot.

And he was talking about repair and he was talking about the importance of it actually within parenting.

But I had never put that...

sort of like on myself as a personal endeavor that I could have that level of compassion to go, oh my God, I'm being so awful to myself.

Stop, pause, what would be better?

Because I think that's almost harder than doing it with other people because we're like, it doesn't matter about me.

I'm just chatting negative crap in my head as usual.

I'll just carry on with my day.

But actually we need to see that in ourselves that we deserve a bit of

Just to let ourselves off the hook, quite frankly.