Frances Cook

I always feel that's the biggest key because people will say to me, oh, I don't know how I'm going to change it.

And I'm just like, if you just know what's going on, things start to change anyway, right?

From being aware.

Yeah.

And as you were saying before about it not necessarily going, it can still trip you up at certain points.

Because you had an issue recently, right, where you made changes to your home and it resurfaced some things.

Isn't that funny?

I feel like that's also the big power of, as you were saying before, even if it's not journaling, the writing things down.

Because when you put these fears in front of the light...

you suddenly realize that doesn't make sense or that's so overblown or that's a bit silly.

But when it's just sitting there in your mind, it can be this sort of uncontested idea that guides so much action.

And it's only when you really force yourself to speak it aloud, write it down and look at it that you're like,

Oh, that's so silly.

But it doesn't feel silly, does it?

Yeah, yeah.

It is funny, though, you saying about the making friends thing, because when we moved from Hamilton to Tiaramutu, I like having my little cohort.

Yeah.

I like my little tight click.

And I literally, a few months ago, I said to my husband, I was like, I've chosen some new friend targets.

This one and this one.