Frances Fry

Like I don't pretend they don't exist.

I talk about them as the pebbles and I talk about all of the accelerants that happened and then you get an accurate report card and then you let go of it.

So I think it's important that we don't distort reality to handle it.

We just show reality.

That's all people with imposter syndrome need is an accurate view of reality.

Yeah, I think the most prominent cousin of imposter syndrome is the perfectionist.

Super common.

Yeah, super common.

And it could be someone who has imposter syndrome or someone else that you're going to observe it in, but it's the perfectionist.

And the perfectionist, if I can summarize it in the crispest way possible, the perfectionist thinks there are two states of nature, flawless or failure.

Yes.

Yep.

What a debilitating way to go through the world.

Its own distortion field.

And right now I'm going to be like, oh my gosh, there are all these distortions.

Now, wouldn't we like to sprinkle magic dust on the person who thinks there are two states in the world, flawless or failure, and make that evaporate?

Because the quest for flawless is going to take all day and you're going to get nothing else done.

You're unlikely to achieve it, but for sure you're unlikely to accomplish anything else.

Yeah, I love the it's an escape from failure because that's indeed what it is.

If you think there are two states to the world, flawless or failure, you're going to try to be flawless so that you are not a failure.