Frances Fry

And that's so sad because you had all of the raw materials to get there.

In fact, if I said to you, would you rather have a team of soloists or a team of team players?

This is one where it's the person has the mistaken impression that what they're bringing to the table is effort.

And so by hook or by crook, they have to work harder than everyone else.

So this is the person who secretly goes to the gym.

This is the person who secretly stays late.

This is the person who in secret exhausts themselves saying,

doing all of these, putting in all of this extra time, again, I think probably as a soloist when they're doing it, but they're putting in the extra hours as if there is a participation trophy.

And once you get out of Little League, there are no more participation trophies.

But the superhero is acting like there is a participation trophy and that if I work harder, I win.

And it's just not true.

I like that frame too.

Yeah.

And this try harder mentality, you're not going to win against anyone of consequence and they're going to have a better life.

Because if you want to think great ideas, you have to be well rested and well nourished and well exercised.

Well, the person who's competing on effort wins.

They have let those things go long ago.

So I would say that it's the superhero thinks the only way they can compete is with the participation trophy of effort.

And I have yet to meet a person for whom that's actually true.

And the tragedy is they're covering up the really good stuff in the panic to get the thing that they think matters.