Fred Luskin

So not only are they in a workplace with maybe more interactions and more possible difficulties, their minds are frazzled even before they deal with anybody by emails, by texts, by relentless checking, by social media, by all of the just demands on their attention.

So they come into work already with a higher level of arousal because they're so used to getting stimulated by this relentless, um, attention and, and, you know, like I'm at you all day long. So that has to be factored in there as well.

So they come into work already with a higher level of arousal because they're so used to getting stimulated by this relentless, um, attention and, and, you know, like I'm at you all day long. So that has to be factored in there as well.

So they come into work already with a higher level of arousal because they're so used to getting stimulated by this relentless, um, attention and, and, you know, like I'm at you all day long. So that has to be factored in there as well.

I'm going to add a third piece. Often we move away from somebody because we can't handle the disturbance, suffering, stress that come up in us, and we use distancing as a self-regulation strategy. So if my sister causes me every time I'm near her to feel anxious, angry, unsettled, sometimes if I don't have sufficient skill at going inward and rebalancing or whatever.

I'm going to add a third piece. Often we move away from somebody because we can't handle the disturbance, suffering, stress that come up in us, and we use distancing as a self-regulation strategy. So if my sister causes me every time I'm near her to feel anxious, angry, unsettled, sometimes if I don't have sufficient skill at going inward and rebalancing or whatever.

I'm going to add a third piece. Often we move away from somebody because we can't handle the disturbance, suffering, stress that come up in us, and we use distancing as a self-regulation strategy. So if my sister causes me every time I'm near her to feel anxious, angry, unsettled, sometimes if I don't have sufficient skill at going inward and rebalancing or whatever.

I'll just keep them away to try to manage my own reactivity. That's incredibly common. On the polarities that the listener sent you, it's not so simple. One of the mistakes that she presented was You can forgive someone and choose not to have contact with them. It's not either or. She could look at her sister and say, whatever you did, I'm not holding anything towards you. We're clean.

I'll just keep them away to try to manage my own reactivity. That's incredibly common. On the polarities that the listener sent you, it's not so simple. One of the mistakes that she presented was You can forgive someone and choose not to have contact with them. It's not either or. She could look at her sister and say, whatever you did, I'm not holding anything towards you. We're clean.

I'll just keep them away to try to manage my own reactivity. That's incredibly common. On the polarities that the listener sent you, it's not so simple. One of the mistakes that she presented was You can forgive someone and choose not to have contact with them. It's not either or. She could look at her sister and say, whatever you did, I'm not holding anything towards you. We're clean.

But enough is enough. You go your way. I go mine. But there's no bitterness in me. There's just... You know, we tried this for 40 years. It didn't work for me and have a lovely life for a while. And thank you. So they're not mutually exclusive. Um, what I would suggest is when you're dealing with your sister and like you want to see if you can rehearse even. connecting with her?

But enough is enough. You go your way. I go mine. But there's no bitterness in me. There's just... You know, we tried this for 40 years. It didn't work for me and have a lovely life for a while. And thank you. So they're not mutually exclusive. Um, what I would suggest is when you're dealing with your sister and like you want to see if you can rehearse even. connecting with her?

But enough is enough. You go your way. I go mine. But there's no bitterness in me. There's just... You know, we tried this for 40 years. It didn't work for me and have a lovely life for a while. And thank you. So they're not mutually exclusive. Um, what I would suggest is when you're dealing with your sister and like you want to see if you can rehearse even. connecting with her?

Like, are you able to create a, you know, a bond or an outreach, even just in practice, if not that significant information that this may go really deep? Second, on the other side of it, if you get into a really quiet, clean, gentle space, like You know, you're lying on the beach in Hawaii, and it's 92 degrees, and you just got out of the water.

Like, are you able to create a, you know, a bond or an outreach, even just in practice, if not that significant information that this may go really deep? Second, on the other side of it, if you get into a really quiet, clean, gentle space, like You know, you're lying on the beach in Hawaii, and it's 92 degrees, and you just got out of the water.

Like, are you able to create a, you know, a bond or an outreach, even just in practice, if not that significant information that this may go really deep? Second, on the other side of it, if you get into a really quiet, clean, gentle space, like You know, you're lying on the beach in Hawaii, and it's 92 degrees, and you just got out of the water.

If your insides still tell you that, no, this person is not safe for you, it's probably deeply in you that that's what you feel. But if it's just that every time you think of joining or connecting with you get anxious or upset, that may not be enough inner guidance to follow long term.

If your insides still tell you that, no, this person is not safe for you, it's probably deeply in you that that's what you feel. But if it's just that every time you think of joining or connecting with you get anxious or upset, that may not be enough inner guidance to follow long term.

If your insides still tell you that, no, this person is not safe for you, it's probably deeply in you that that's what you feel. But if it's just that every time you think of joining or connecting with you get anxious or upset, that may not be enough inner guidance to follow long term.

You know, if what I heard from her, if the word narcissist tendencies is real and not just becoming a cultural way of describing people that we don't like what they did, But if somebody has real narcissistic tendencies, you can't expect a full reciprocal relationship from them. You simply can't.