Fred Luskin

You know, if what I heard from her, if the word narcissist tendencies is real and not just becoming a cultural way of describing people that we don't like what they did, But if somebody has real narcissistic tendencies, you can't expect a full reciprocal relationship from them. You simply can't.

You know, if what I heard from her, if the word narcissist tendencies is real and not just becoming a cultural way of describing people that we don't like what they did, But if somebody has real narcissistic tendencies, you can't expect a full reciprocal relationship from them. You simply can't.

So within that context, any forgiveness is just for your own peace of mind so that you will calm your brain down, you will open your heart back up, never with the thought that that's going to improve them or have them see you as you are because a real narcissist can't see you as they are. They see themselves. Again, though, there's this confusion between reconciliation and forgiveness.

So within that context, any forgiveness is just for your own peace of mind so that you will calm your brain down, you will open your heart back up, never with the thought that that's going to improve them or have them see you as you are because a real narcissist can't see you as they are. They see themselves. Again, though, there's this confusion between reconciliation and forgiveness.

So within that context, any forgiveness is just for your own peace of mind so that you will calm your brain down, you will open your heart back up, never with the thought that that's going to improve them or have them see you as you are because a real narcissist can't see you as they are. They see themselves. Again, though, there's this confusion between reconciliation and forgiveness.

You can forgive someone who's unrepentant simply because you don't want to carry that in you. You make no assumption that that will change them. Now, somebody who has weaker narcissistic tendencies and you forgive them and you show up, sometimes that does influence them to reduce their side of it, but there is no guarantee.

You can forgive someone who's unrepentant simply because you don't want to carry that in you. You make no assumption that that will change them. Now, somebody who has weaker narcissistic tendencies and you forgive them and you show up, sometimes that does influence them to reduce their side of it, but there is no guarantee.

You can forgive someone who's unrepentant simply because you don't want to carry that in you. You make no assumption that that will change them. Now, somebody who has weaker narcissistic tendencies and you forgive them and you show up, sometimes that does influence them to reduce their side of it, but there is no guarantee.

We can't know what will be good for someone else And we can't know their perception of what happened. We can only be as clear as possible about what our choices are and how our responses were.

We can't know what will be good for someone else And we can't know their perception of what happened. We can only be as clear as possible about what our choices are and how our responses were.

We can't know what will be good for someone else And we can't know their perception of what happened. We can only be as clear as possible about what our choices are and how our responses were.

What a lovely description of the poles of a mind, you know, that is trying to integrate the heart but knows this is tough sledding. The real question is not should we forgive, but what's our most skillful action and what's the best mindset for moving ahead. Forgiveness is a pathway to the best mindset. It's not the mindset in and of itself.

What a lovely description of the poles of a mind, you know, that is trying to integrate the heart but knows this is tough sledding. The real question is not should we forgive, but what's our most skillful action and what's the best mindset for moving ahead. Forgiveness is a pathway to the best mindset. It's not the mindset in and of itself.

What a lovely description of the poles of a mind, you know, that is trying to integrate the heart but knows this is tough sledding. The real question is not should we forgive, but what's our most skillful action and what's the best mindset for moving ahead. Forgiveness is a pathway to the best mindset. It's not the mindset in and of itself.

So when you're in a situation where you're vulnerable, like that listener just called in, and legitimately afraid That's not trivial, and that can't be swept under the rug by saying, well, I forgive them. It's not that simple.

So when you're in a situation where you're vulnerable, like that listener just called in, and legitimately afraid That's not trivial, and that can't be swept under the rug by saying, well, I forgive them. It's not that simple.

So when you're in a situation where you're vulnerable, like that listener just called in, and legitimately afraid That's not trivial, and that can't be swept under the rug by saying, well, I forgive them. It's not that simple.

But at the same time, we recognize that simply hating or demonizing whatever it is we think caused our vulnerability, after a while, will diminish our own ability to take skillful action because we're tired from our anger and our resentment and clouds our judgment. So part of it is grieving and admitting our vulnerability and loss.

But at the same time, we recognize that simply hating or demonizing whatever it is we think caused our vulnerability, after a while, will diminish our own ability to take skillful action because we're tired from our anger and our resentment and clouds our judgment. So part of it is grieving and admitting our vulnerability and loss.

But at the same time, we recognize that simply hating or demonizing whatever it is we think caused our vulnerability, after a while, will diminish our own ability to take skillful action because we're tired from our anger and our resentment and clouds our judgment. So part of it is grieving and admitting our vulnerability and loss.