Fred Luskin

Secondly, joining together with other people who have similar experiences so there's some strength in numbers. And then really focusing on within the legitimate experience of our life, what's the most skillful action? How do we behave in a way that will get us closer to what our real goals are and not just have us dominated by fear or resentment? That's the piece that forgiveness clears out.

Secondly, joining together with other people who have similar experiences so there's some strength in numbers. And then really focusing on within the legitimate experience of our life, what's the most skillful action? How do we behave in a way that will get us closer to what our real goals are and not just have us dominated by fear or resentment? That's the piece that forgiveness clears out.

Secondly, joining together with other people who have similar experiences so there's some strength in numbers. And then really focusing on within the legitimate experience of our life, what's the most skillful action? How do we behave in a way that will get us closer to what our real goals are and not just have us dominated by fear or resentment? That's the piece that forgiveness clears out.

Well, it can be a couple of things. One, that the goal or motivation you align with, even when you're not upset or even when you're not meeting with other people in like shared outrage, But yeah, that's really what I believe in. Two, is it experimentally kind of verifiable? Like, I try this. Does it help?

Well, it can be a couple of things. One, that the goal or motivation you align with, even when you're not upset or even when you're not meeting with other people in like shared outrage, But yeah, that's really what I believe in. Two, is it experimentally kind of verifiable? Like, I try this. Does it help?

Well, it can be a couple of things. One, that the goal or motivation you align with, even when you're not upset or even when you're not meeting with other people in like shared outrage, But yeah, that's really what I believe in. Two, is it experimentally kind of verifiable? Like, I try this. Does it help?

If it doesn't help, do I admit that I was not doing the best thing and go back and try something else? Do I maybe ask for advice as to other people's experience? Do I read up about past skillful action? Is my mind open to problem solving or is it motivated by resentment and revenge? Those are very different motivations and they give us different minds to evaluate the outcome.

If it doesn't help, do I admit that I was not doing the best thing and go back and try something else? Do I maybe ask for advice as to other people's experience? Do I read up about past skillful action? Is my mind open to problem solving or is it motivated by resentment and revenge? Those are very different motivations and they give us different minds to evaluate the outcome.

If it doesn't help, do I admit that I was not doing the best thing and go back and try something else? Do I maybe ask for advice as to other people's experience? Do I read up about past skillful action? Is my mind open to problem solving or is it motivated by resentment and revenge? Those are very different motivations and they give us different minds to evaluate the outcome.

You'd have to be incredibly emotionally competent to say that. And you would have to have really emotionally competent parents to hear that. But it is a phenomenal strategy. And you could extrapolate that strategy to so many interpersonal difficulties, just so many. You could imagine how many intimate partners could bring that to each other. You know, you said this, it hurt me.

You'd have to be incredibly emotionally competent to say that. And you would have to have really emotionally competent parents to hear that. But it is a phenomenal strategy. And you could extrapolate that strategy to so many interpersonal difficulties, just so many. You could imagine how many intimate partners could bring that to each other. You know, you said this, it hurt me.

You'd have to be incredibly emotionally competent to say that. And you would have to have really emotionally competent parents to hear that. But it is a phenomenal strategy. And you could extrapolate that strategy to so many interpersonal difficulties, just so many. You could imagine how many intimate partners could bring that to each other. You know, you said this, it hurt me.

Part of me wants to strike back at you. Part of me wants to understand you. But underneath what you said, are some incredibly skillful means of, I'm responsible for my emotional state, I need to put what I'm feeling into words, and I trust people enough to share my vulnerability with them. None of those are easy for people to access.

Part of me wants to strike back at you. Part of me wants to understand you. But underneath what you said, are some incredibly skillful means of, I'm responsible for my emotional state, I need to put what I'm feeling into words, and I trust people enough to share my vulnerability with them. None of those are easy for people to access.

Part of me wants to strike back at you. Part of me wants to understand you. But underneath what you said, are some incredibly skillful means of, I'm responsible for my emotional state, I need to put what I'm feeling into words, and I trust people enough to share my vulnerability with them. None of those are easy for people to access.

The answer to that is yes. There's a couple of steps that, you know, people need to look at. One of them is to legitimately acknowledge what you have done. That there really is no self-forgiveness without some acknowledgement, some remorse. You know, if you look at truth and reconciliation in South Africa is just a general model.

The answer to that is yes. There's a couple of steps that, you know, people need to look at. One of them is to legitimately acknowledge what you have done. That there really is no self-forgiveness without some acknowledgement, some remorse. You know, if you look at truth and reconciliation in South Africa is just a general model.

The answer to that is yes. There's a couple of steps that, you know, people need to look at. One of them is to legitimately acknowledge what you have done. That there really is no self-forgiveness without some acknowledgement, some remorse. You know, if you look at truth and reconciliation in South Africa is just a general model.

You know, there was a pretty strong public forum for, boy, did we do bad and this can't be hidden. So the first step is, to whatever degree possible, admit it to yourself.

You know, there was a pretty strong public forum for, boy, did we do bad and this can't be hidden. So the first step is, to whatever degree possible, admit it to yourself.