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Fred Luskin

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693 total appearances

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Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Just normally when you're cut off in traffic, when somebody cuts in front of you in the supermarket line, when the airplane is late and you're going to miss your connecting flight, you're practicing what you might need a year down the road when somebody doesn't behave right.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Just normally when you're cut off in traffic, when somebody cuts in front of you in the supermarket line, when the airplane is late and you're going to miss your connecting flight, you're practicing what you might need a year down the road when somebody doesn't behave right.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Just normally when you're cut off in traffic, when somebody cuts in front of you in the supermarket line, when the airplane is late and you're going to miss your connecting flight, you're practicing what you might need a year down the road when somebody doesn't behave right.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

I'm going to add two things to that. One, there's also the statute of limitations, which most people forget about. Even if they're bringing an argument before the judge, most cases have five, seven-year statute of limitations And so that's the water dampening on that analogy, even though it's true.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

I'm going to add two things to that. One, there's also the statute of limitations, which most people forget about. Even if they're bringing an argument before the judge, most cases have five, seven-year statute of limitations And so that's the water dampening on that analogy, even though it's true.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

I'm going to add two things to that. One, there's also the statute of limitations, which most people forget about. Even if they're bringing an argument before the judge, most cases have five, seven-year statute of limitations And so that's the water dampening on that analogy, even though it's true.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Secondly, forgiveness is not just for the self, but it's for the current important relationships in one's life that one wants to maintain and grow. And again, let's just use the judge analogy. So let's say that somebody does something that's wrong. There's nothing wrong with imposing a one-week sentence on them. But then you also want to be merciful. And that's missing often in the judge analogy.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Secondly, forgiveness is not just for the self, but it's for the current important relationships in one's life that one wants to maintain and grow. And again, let's just use the judge analogy. So let's say that somebody does something that's wrong. There's nothing wrong with imposing a one-week sentence on them. But then you also want to be merciful. And that's missing often in the judge analogy.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Secondly, forgiveness is not just for the self, but it's for the current important relationships in one's life that one wants to maintain and grow. And again, let's just use the judge analogy. So let's say that somebody does something that's wrong. There's nothing wrong with imposing a one-week sentence on them. But then you also want to be merciful. And that's missing often in the judge analogy.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Sometimes you let people out for good behavior. Sometimes you commute their sentence. So we're looking at a complex life and we want to be careful not to lose the complex life on our over fixation with a negative experience.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Sometimes you let people out for good behavior. Sometimes you commute their sentence. So we're looking at a complex life and we want to be careful not to lose the complex life on our over fixation with a negative experience.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

Sometimes you let people out for good behavior. Sometimes you commute their sentence. So we're looking at a complex life and we want to be careful not to lose the complex life on our over fixation with a negative experience.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

I thank you very much.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

I thank you very much.

Hidden Brain
Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That? + Your Questions Answered: Fred Luskin on Grudges

I thank you very much.

Hidden Brain
No Hard Feelings

Hey, thank you so much.

Hidden Brain
No Hard Feelings

Hey, thank you so much.

Hidden Brain
No Hard Feelings

Hey, thank you so much.

Hidden Brain
No Hard Feelings

No. I mean, issues, that's a nice way of putting it. Her husband was a serial adulterer. She had found him cheating numerous times. He said, I'm sorry. She said, OK, I'll take you back. He did it again.

Hidden Brain
No Hard Feelings

No. I mean, issues, that's a nice way of putting it. Her husband was a serial adulterer. She had found him cheating numerous times. He said, I'm sorry. She said, OK, I'll take you back. He did it again.