Fred Luskin

That would be one, you know, first of all, it helps her. But secondly, it creates a shared pain. The second thing is sometimes we can't turn back time. And there is a forgiveness element there that, you know, it's up to you. And I respect as best I can how you deal with your suffering. The third piece is now that I have learned this about the dangers, or even if I didn't do anything deliberately,

That would be one, you know, first of all, it helps her. But secondly, it creates a shared pain. The second thing is sometimes we can't turn back time. And there is a forgiveness element there that, you know, it's up to you. And I respect as best I can how you deal with your suffering. The third piece is now that I have learned this about the dangers, or even if I didn't do anything deliberately,

even if it was just a bad confluence of events where absolutely nobody is at fault. One of the things that she can do is move ahead with a renewed attention to make sure that this never happens again so that her radar are more finely attuned to other people's pain and

even if it was just a bad confluence of events where absolutely nobody is at fault. One of the things that she can do is move ahead with a renewed attention to make sure that this never happens again so that her radar are more finely attuned to other people's pain and

even if it was just a bad confluence of events where absolutely nobody is at fault. One of the things that she can do is move ahead with a renewed attention to make sure that this never happens again so that her radar are more finely attuned to other people's pain and

She can even use this as a teaching to tell other people never underestimate when people are suffering how vulnerable or how reactive they might be. So she can use her loss to help others. That's sometimes the best we can do.

She can even use this as a teaching to tell other people never underestimate when people are suffering how vulnerable or how reactive they might be. So she can use her loss to help others. That's sometimes the best we can do.

She can even use this as a teaching to tell other people never underestimate when people are suffering how vulnerable or how reactive they might be. So she can use her loss to help others. That's sometimes the best we can do.

I mean, if you ask me about the factors that influence the ability to forgive, Research has picked up a few, not that many. One of them is gratitude, and it may be a surprise to you, but people who see the good in their lives are more capable of letting go of the bad. And that is a reasonably robust finding that, you know, if you wake up in the morning and it's a beautiful day out,

I mean, if you ask me about the factors that influence the ability to forgive, Research has picked up a few, not that many. One of them is gratitude, and it may be a surprise to you, but people who see the good in their lives are more capable of letting go of the bad. And that is a reasonably robust finding that, you know, if you wake up in the morning and it's a beautiful day out,

I mean, if you ask me about the factors that influence the ability to forgive, Research has picked up a few, not that many. One of them is gratitude, and it may be a surprise to you, but people who see the good in their lives are more capable of letting go of the bad. And that is a reasonably robust finding that, you know, if you wake up in the morning and it's a beautiful day out,

and you're delighted that you had breakfast, and you look at a picture of your kid and you go, I got a good life, then when somebody calls you and is rude, you're going to be more likely to hold it better. Now, let me add one or two other things to that. A home where you were raised, where forgiveness is modeled, is more likely imprinted on your brain than not.

and you're delighted that you had breakfast, and you look at a picture of your kid and you go, I got a good life, then when somebody calls you and is rude, you're going to be more likely to hold it better. Now, let me add one or two other things to that. A home where you were raised, where forgiveness is modeled, is more likely imprinted on your brain than not.

and you're delighted that you had breakfast, and you look at a picture of your kid and you go, I got a good life, then when somebody calls you and is rude, you're going to be more likely to hold it better. Now, let me add one or two other things to that. A home where you were raised, where forgiveness is modeled, is more likely imprinted on your brain than not.

Did you see your parents forgive each other? Did you see your parents forgive you? That is a huge modeling that even can be pre-verbal, you know? Like, oh my gosh, I saw this. Second, Our nervous systems have something to do with our ability to forgive. There's a quality of human nervous system arousal where people are called hot reactors. You've met them. They get aroused very quickly.

Did you see your parents forgive each other? Did you see your parents forgive you? That is a huge modeling that even can be pre-verbal, you know? Like, oh my gosh, I saw this. Second, Our nervous systems have something to do with our ability to forgive. There's a quality of human nervous system arousal where people are called hot reactors. You've met them. They get aroused very quickly.

Did you see your parents forgive each other? Did you see your parents forgive you? That is a huge modeling that even can be pre-verbal, you know? Like, oh my gosh, I saw this. Second, Our nervous systems have something to do with our ability to forgive. There's a quality of human nervous system arousal where people are called hot reactors. You've met them. They get aroused very quickly.

those people struggle like crazy to forgive because the adrenaline just comes so quickly and so strongly and pulsates into anger that that is a real challenge. The last thing that I will say is it also depends on the amount of practice you put in. You know, if you practice

those people struggle like crazy to forgive because the adrenaline just comes so quickly and so strongly and pulsates into anger that that is a real challenge. The last thing that I will say is it also depends on the amount of practice you put in. You know, if you practice

those people struggle like crazy to forgive because the adrenaline just comes so quickly and so strongly and pulsates into anger that that is a real challenge. The last thing that I will say is it also depends on the amount of practice you put in. You know, if you practice