Freya India

Because I think it's been drilled into us that these things are self-love.

And so a lot of the time in the book, I talk about recognizing what are you actually being sold versus what you're being told, because you're constantly being told you feel this way and that this app or technology or trend will make you feel this way, even though it's not.

So I don't know any young woman that would facetune herself and feel good

feel good doing it rather than feel embarrassed and a bit ashamed and feel worse about themselves after.

Yes.

Yeah, it's the same, that's so similar to the beauty stuff for women, which is that it can maybe get you what you want superficially.

So you FaceTune yourself and you get 200 likes on your Instagram post, but then it's a momentary bit of dopamine.

but then after that you're now hooked on the app you need to keep using it you need the constant yeah and then you develop which is what happened to me and a lot of girls i know which was then having an aversion to having your picture taken naturally because you're so used to controlling it so girls in my friendship group would fight over whose phone the picture would be taken on so that they could go in and face they've got the control wow and so then wow that is fucking insane

Yeah, because it feels so out of control.

And then also that explains a lot of, I think, social anxiety because being in the real world is out of control.

You can't control your appearance.

You can't edit what you're saying or rehearse it.

And so I think a lot of these apps actually then stunted us in real life because it feels so...

It's another paradox where we're vain and insecure at the same time.

But there's context to it because...

You know, I grew up with the dog ear filter on Snapchat.

Please tell me you know what that is.

Yes, but the dog one... Made people want to be dogs.

No, but it beautified you as well.

So it would enlarge your eyes and smooth your skin.