Freya India

As we were saying before, it looks like teenage girls on Instagram, but then applied to it's how young men are reacting to the incentives.

Like you said, on dating profiles, they've got to advertise themselves like a product.

But I think it's also just social media in general, because when you match with someone on a dating app, the first thing you do is look up their Instagram and their Instagram has to show.

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

I think that is true.

Well, it's like the app, you know, the tea app.

Yes.

Fuck.

Yeah.

But you can like literally rate and review men based off pictures of themselves and like rate them a green flag and a red flag.

But that is happening in group chats.

And I think a lot of young men think, even before they've met someone,

all of their memories have to be marketed in a way for a future partner who's going to be scrolling through their life.

So it's like, yeah, when you go on holiday, capturing images, not for the memories, but for this future woman who's going to be scrolling through your profiles.

insecure it's less threatening from a mating perspective it is interesting though because I feel like at the moment my generation of young women are on average very insecure about how they look and they're very anxious but they also seem to be louder than ever in terms of I'm empowered I'm strong I'm independent and so you have women who are really trying to portray that they never get jealous and they never get insecure but then they seem to have this deep risk aversion and anxiety and I don't know where that comes from

finance maxing and then women will just go into like wallowing like it yeah I feel like women don't wouldn't call each other out either so if like a young woman posted on social media that she had this horrible experience with a man and it was kind of unfair toward the man the comments are all going to be in support of her because if she's say crying or she's upset on camera we're all going to co-ruminate together and then also

Whereas women would be like, you look better than ever.

that's beautiful support all types yeah i also think it's because we we have a somewhat therapeutic culture now where the ultimate goal for women is like self-actualization so it's becoming their authentic selves and that's why you see these storylines in movies where

the woman is basically trying to find her authentic self and then everyone else is a distraction and an obstacle the men then become obstacles and it goes back to the beginning of the conversation with marriage and women having a negative view of men and the risk aversion because they will be an obstacle to their self-actualization and that is now the ultimate mission