Gabby Bernstein

Choosing to check in is also just sometimes even having the awareness that you need to check in because that's step one. Step two is curiosity. Become curious. These are all C qualities, remember, right? So it's like acting as if. And so the curiosity is start. So I'm in this place where this manager is up and she's like, what the going on here? I have to do everything. Nobody else will do it.

Choosing to check in is also just sometimes even having the awareness that you need to check in because that's step one. Step two is curiosity. Become curious. These are all C qualities, remember, right? So it's like acting as if. And so the curiosity is start. So I'm in this place where this manager is up and she's like, what the going on here? I have to do everything. Nobody else will do it.

And so I choose to check in with her and I become curious and I start to notice the feelings and the thoughts and the sensations inside. I start asking her questions like, where do you feel that in your body? And she's like, I'm not breathing. And there's tension in my chest. And I start to say, you know, what kind of thoughts or sensations?

And so I choose to check in with her and I become curious and I start to notice the feelings and the thoughts and the sensations inside. I start asking her questions like, where do you feel that in your body? And she's like, I'm not breathing. And there's tension in my chest. And I start to say, you know, what kind of thoughts or sensations?

And her thoughts are like, what the fuck is going on here?

And her thoughts are like, what the fuck is going on here?

And I ask her for any images or visions. And she shows me my six-year-old self in my dining room with my pigtails. And I'm screaming. No bumps, no bumps. Because the only way that I could find control in this out of control life that I had was to control the bumps in my pigtails.

And I ask her for any images or visions. And she shows me my six-year-old self in my dining room with my pigtails. And I'm screaming. No bumps, no bumps. Because the only way that I could find control in this out of control life that I had was to control the bumps in my pigtails.

Right. And so she's, so this girl that's now this adult that's screaming, what the is going on here is the little girl. I said, this is the vision she showed that she shows me. The little girl screaming, no bumps with the pigtail. So I start having all the, I flash out this information about her. You can see I'm like, I could tear up as I think about her.

Right. And so she's, so this girl that's now this adult that's screaming, what the is going on here is the little girl. I said, this is the vision she showed that she shows me. The little girl screaming, no bumps with the pigtail. So I start having all the, I flash out this information about her. You can see I'm like, I could tear up as I think about her.

And that connection that you, can you feel that connection I'm having with her right now?

And that connection that you, can you feel that connection I'm having with her right now?

That connection shows me that there's some self-energy here. Okay. And so as soon as you start to feel some kind of connection to that part, the third step happens. And by the way, you can spend as much time as you want in curiosity. You could just ask more questions. Let the part speak. The parts want to speak. Step three, compassionate connection.

That connection shows me that there's some self-energy here. Okay. And so as soon as you start to feel some kind of connection to that part, the third step happens. And by the way, you can spend as much time as you want in curiosity. You could just ask more questions. Let the part speak. The parts want to speak. Step three, compassionate connection.

So I can look at that little girl and I can ask her, little Gabby, what do you need right now? And right away she'll speak back. She'll say, you know, at times she said things like, I need a mom.

So I can look at that little girl and I can ask her, little Gabby, what do you need right now? And right away she'll speak back. She'll say, you know, at times she said things like, I need a mom.

Or I need to rest. Or I need to play. I need to scream. I need, you know, they're just speaking for what they need, right? I need to speak up. I need to be heard. And so the little voice gets to speak up and say what they need. And once that response comes through internally, the fourth step is to check for C qualities of self.

Or I need to rest. Or I need to play. I need to scream. I need, you know, they're just speaking for what they need, right? I need to speak up. I need to be heard. And so the little voice gets to speak up and say what they need. And once that response comes through internally, the fourth step is to check for C qualities of self.

So you scan your inner system and you ask yourself, do I feel any connection? Yes, right now in this moment, I just did the check-in with little Gabby and I feel connected to her. Do I feel compassion? Holy, right now I feel so much compassion for her. Do I feel clarity? Yes. She just showed me. It's a little girl, right? She showed me exactly where she was. I feel clear what she needs.

So you scan your inner system and you ask yourself, do I feel any connection? Yes, right now in this moment, I just did the check-in with little Gabby and I feel connected to her. Do I feel compassion? Holy, right now I feel so much compassion for her. Do I feel clarity? Yes. She just showed me. It's a little girl, right? She showed me exactly where she was. I feel clear what she needs.