Gabby Bernstein

Okay. So the protector that's freaking out, right? She's freaking out because something isn't going the way she wants, right? So she's the freaking out protector. I'm actually doing a lot of work with her in therapy right now, so it's nice. And I do IFS therapy, so of course. And she's having a freak out, like, you know, some email isn't good or like the things aren't working as fast.

Okay. So the protector that's freaking out, right? She's freaking out because something isn't going the way she wants, right? So she's the freaking out protector. I'm actually doing a lot of work with her in therapy right now, so it's nice. And I do IFS therapy, so of course. And she's having a freak out, like, you know, some email isn't good or like the things aren't working as fast.

It seems not working as fast as possible. Or if she feels like she has a burden belief, right? This freak out girl, her belief is if I don't do it, nobody else will.

It seems not working as fast as possible. Or if she feels like she has a burden belief, right? This freak out girl, her belief is if I don't do it, nobody else will.

And so she is maybe just like, and she has, also has another, and I'm cursing a lot, but just bleep me. Okay. But she has another phrase that she says, it's like, what the is going on here? And when I think about her, I think about, okay, so let me give you the check-in process. So let's say I notice she's coming in, she's showing up. And I'm like, oh, I notice her.

And so she is maybe just like, and she has, also has another, and I'm cursing a lot, but just bleep me. Okay. But she has another phrase that she says, it's like, what the is going on here? And when I think about her, I think about, okay, so let me give you the check-in process. So let's say I notice she's coming in, she's showing up. And I'm like, oh, I notice her.

I have enough awareness to be like, she's here. She needs help. So I need self to help, self help me. I'll say that again. I need self to help, self help me. I, you know, have that awareness. I choose to check in, step one.

I have enough awareness to be like, she's here. She needs help. So I need self to help, self help me. I'll say that again. I need self to help, self help me. I, you know, have that awareness. I choose to check in, step one.

choose to check in make a choice yes because remember parts are like little children so if you try to force something on a little child like if i try to go to ollie and say to him bro what the hell is going on you seem upset let's talk about it he's like no mommy like get away mommy right so he there has to be some buy-in okay so there's some buy-in and i'm going to choose to check in

choose to check in make a choice yes because remember parts are like little children so if you try to force something on a little child like if i try to go to ollie and say to him bro what the hell is going on you seem upset let's talk about it he's like no mommy like get away mommy right so he there has to be some buy-in okay so there's some buy-in and i'm going to choose to check in

It's both. Okay. So it's the choice is a self like quality, but the part has to make the choice.

It's both. Okay. So it's the choice is a self like quality, but the part has to make the choice.

Yeah, it has to be my presence of self and his willingness.

Yeah, it has to be my presence of self and his willingness.

Openness, yeah.

Openness, yeah.

Yeah, yeah. You never know. When he gets older. When he's 16, yeah, yeah. When he's 16 years old, he might say things like this. He might say, screw you, mommy. Yeah, yeah. So who makes you think of Cartman? Do you know that I do a really good Cartman? Screw you, man. I'm getting hit. That's good. I'm really good at it. That's good. Choose to check in. So choose to check in.

Yeah, yeah. You never know. When he gets older. When he's 16, yeah, yeah. When he's 16 years old, he might say things like this. He might say, screw you, mommy. Yeah, yeah. So who makes you think of Cartman? Do you know that I do a really good Cartman? Screw you, man. I'm getting hit. That's good. I'm really good at it. That's good. Choose to check in. So choose to check in.

Detour from compartment. Choose to check in. So you have this awareness that the part's triggered and you're saying, okay, I'm going to choose to check in right now. So step one, that's it. Choose. And if you know that you feel that buy-in, like, okay, the part's ready to go, we can keep going, right?

Detour from compartment. Choose to check in. So you have this awareness that the part's triggered and you're saying, okay, I'm going to choose to check in right now. So step one, that's it. Choose. And if you know that you feel that buy-in, like, okay, the part's ready to go, we can keep going, right?