Gabby Bernstein

Yeah. The whole book. So what I've done is I've taken this huge therapy, internal family systems therapy, super in the zeitgeist right now. God bless. It's the most valuable healing modality, particularly for trauma. And it's the kind of thing that I felt only people that were going to find their way to an IFS therapist were going to get this. And I was sitting at a dinner with Dick Schwartz.

Yeah. The whole book. So what I've done is I've taken this huge therapy, internal family systems therapy, super in the zeitgeist right now. God bless. It's the most valuable healing modality, particularly for trauma. And it's the kind of thing that I felt only people that were going to find their way to an IFS therapist were going to get this. And I was sitting at a dinner with Dick Schwartz.

I hosted a dinner for him. Just again, he's the founder of IFS. Started this about 40, 43 years ago, 44 years ago. And I was sitting next to Dick and this was shortly after I'd taken the training and we'd become friends. And I looked at him and we're at a dinner I'm hosting for him. And it's like having Lady Gaga at my house. And I look at him and I'm like, I have to tell you something.

I hosted a dinner for him. Just again, he's the founder of IFS. Started this about 40, 43 years ago, 44 years ago. And I was sitting next to Dick and this was shortly after I'd taken the training and we'd become friends. And I looked at him and we're at a dinner I'm hosting for him. And it's like having Lady Gaga at my house. And I look at him and I'm like, I have to tell you something.

I'm scared to tell you this, but I want to write a book called Self-Help. Self-Help. And I want to make IFS self-help. And he looked at me, his eyes just like widened. And he was like, I've always wanted somebody to do that. And in the foreword, he says, you know, I've always been looking for that person with the self-help spiritual bona fides and then Gabby's here.

I'm scared to tell you this, but I want to write a book called Self-Help. Self-Help. And I want to make IFS self-help. And he looked at me, his eyes just like widened. And he was like, I've always wanted somebody to do that. And in the foreword, he says, you know, I've always been looking for that person with the self-help spiritual bona fides and then Gabby's here.

And so that's one of the greatest privileges of my life is to take someone else's body of work and translate it.

And so that's one of the greatest privileges of my life is to take someone else's body of work and translate it.

The four-step is not IFS. It's an IFS-informed self-help practice. And that's really important for me to say, Lewis, because if you're going into IFS therapy, you have a therapist with you. You're doing a six-step inquiry, almost like an interview with the parts. It's like an unburdening process. You can work with firefighters and exiles. I am not doing that. I am not a therapist.

The four-step is not IFS. It's an IFS-informed self-help practice. And that's really important for me to say, Lewis, because if you're going into IFS therapy, you have a therapist with you. You're doing a six-step inquiry, almost like an interview with the parts. It's like an unburdening process. You can work with firefighters and exiles. I am not doing that. I am not a therapist.

I'm a spiritual self-help author and teacher. I am trained in internal family systems therapy, but I'm not a therapist. So it was really important for me to take this and make it IFS informed.

I'm a spiritual self-help author and teacher. I am trained in internal family systems therapy, but I'm not a therapist. So it was really important for me to take this and make it IFS informed.

So there's four steps.

So there's four steps.

IFS-approved, IFS-informed, it's backed with Dick's blessing, and it's the way that you can take this model into your own hands safely. Safely is a really important point.

IFS-approved, IFS-informed, it's backed with Dick's blessing, and it's the way that you can take this model into your own hands safely. Safely is a really important point.

Because I'm not trying to guide you to those exiled parts. The book is not trying to work with firefighters. That would be, and I say all throughout the book, like if this happens, if you want to, you're with a firefighter, there's an exile, go, here's an IFS therapist registry, go find somebody.

Because I'm not trying to guide you to those exiled parts. The book is not trying to work with firefighters. That would be, and I say all throughout the book, like if this happens, if you want to, you're with a firefighter, there's an exile, go, here's an IFS therapist registry, go find somebody.

But I'm trying to help you access these managers, the extreme parts that are with you all the time, day to day. And through a four-step inquiry, let's self-help.

But I'm trying to help you access these managers, the extreme parts that are with you all the time, day to day. And through a four-step inquiry, let's self-help.