Gabby Bernstein

And then it was very clear to me as I was preparing to write this next book that this book had to be about democratizing this therapy because not everyone's going to have the access to therapy or the desire to go that fast and that deep or the commitment to it or the time or whatever their story might be.

And then it was very clear to me as I was preparing to write this next book that this book had to be about democratizing this therapy because not everyone's going to have the access to therapy or the desire to go that fast and that deep or the commitment to it or the time or whatever their story might be.

And so my job as the translator and the demystifier was to take this very big, very important body of work and make it self-help. And so here we are. It is a four-step practice that addresses these young wounds within us. So you know this. You've spoken to this in your own words. We have these experiences from our childhood that are too extreme for the child part of who we are to actually manage.

And so my job as the translator and the demystifier was to take this very big, very important body of work and make it self-help. And so here we are. It is a four-step practice that addresses these young wounds within us. So you know this. You've spoken to this in your own words. We have these experiences from our childhood that are too extreme for the child part of who we are to actually manage.

Our brain can't handle it. We don't have the ability. We have no idea how to manage these extreme emotions. Yeah. without a proper caregiver to help us move through that naturally, we become burdened by it. And it becomes a belief that's so scary to face and the beliefs and the feelings and the trauma and the shame and the inadequacy becomes too scary to actually ever touch.

Our brain can't handle it. We don't have the ability. We have no idea how to manage these extreme emotions. Yeah. without a proper caregiver to help us move through that naturally, we become burdened by it. And it becomes a belief that's so scary to face and the beliefs and the feelings and the trauma and the shame and the inadequacy becomes too scary to actually ever touch.

And so we just shut it down. And the way that we shut it down is with all these different protection mechanisms. So, you know, even as a little kid, right?

And so we just shut it down. And the way that we shut it down is with all these different protection mechanisms. So, you know, even as a little kid, right?

Like maybe, you know, it's like bullying so that you don't have to feel like you're not good enough or starting to judge other people so you don't have to feel inadequate or perfectionism so you can feel like you're being seen or overdoing it so that you can have that attention that you desire and long for. And these become these protection mechanisms that we use from... childhood to the present.

Like maybe, you know, it's like bullying so that you don't have to feel like you're not good enough or starting to judge other people so you don't have to feel inadequate or perfectionism so you can feel like you're being seen or overdoing it so that you can have that attention that you desire and long for. And these become these protection mechanisms that we use from... childhood to the present.

Okay. So those little parts of us, like my controller part or my rageful part, these parts of me have been around for four, you know, 45, you know, 40 years. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Because I've, I've lived the experience of these, these repeated behaviors. Right. So that's, what's called protector parts is the repeated behavior.

Okay. So those little parts of us, like my controller part or my rageful part, these parts of me have been around for four, you know, 45, you know, 40 years. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Because I've, I've lived the experience of these, these repeated behaviors. Right. So that's, what's called protector parts is the repeated behavior.

extreme behavior that we act out with on a day-to-day basis to protect ourselves from the impermissible feelings from our past.

extreme behavior that we act out with on a day-to-day basis to protect ourselves from the impermissible feelings from our past.

So the four steps are about letting this energy of what's called self with a capital S. And so some folks might think of self as their God within them or their Buddha nature or their spiritual essence or their inner guidance system or intuition.

So the four steps are about letting this energy of what's called self with a capital S. And so some folks might think of self as their God within them or their Buddha nature or their spiritual essence or their inner guidance system or intuition.

And in IFS, self is these C qualities of curiosity and connection and compassion and courage and commitment and knowing that you are just in that essence of love. And that is an essence that we all have.

And in IFS, self is these C qualities of curiosity and connection and compassion and courage and commitment and knowing that you are just in that essence of love. And that is an essence that we all have.

It's what we're born with. It's who we are. It is our true nature. And the practice here is about helping these younger patterns, these protector parts, remember that self is there and make that connection.

It's what we're born with. It's who we are. It is our true nature. And the practice here is about helping these younger patterns, these protector parts, remember that self is there and make that connection.