Gabby Bernstein

So the first step is to maybe identify that there's a part that you have that maybe like, have you ever said like, oh, a part of me gets really freaked out when so-and-so does X, Y, Z or whatever. Right. You know, or a part of me gets really controlling at work or whatever the story might be. And for those of us who are trauma survivors, you know, we have a lot of parts.

So the first step is to maybe identify that there's a part that you have that maybe like, have you ever said like, oh, a part of me gets really freaked out when so-and-so does X, Y, Z or whatever. Right. You know, or a part of me gets really controlling at work or whatever the story might be. And for those of us who are trauma survivors, you know, we have a lot of parts.

And so they're protecting us and becoming aware of that or just becoming aware that maybe you have a feeling or a sensation that is undesirable in your life.

And so they're protecting us and becoming aware of that or just becoming aware that maybe you have a feeling or a sensation that is undesirable in your life.

And so when you notice that trigger and you notice that you want to respond to that trigger by acting out or lashing out or whatever it might be, the first step is to choose to check inward, to check in rather than check out.

And so when you notice that trigger and you notice that you want to respond to that trigger by acting out or lashing out or whatever it might be, the first step is to choose to check inward, to check in rather than check out.

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It would look like raging or drinking or binging or whatever it is. Yep. And so choosing to check in is the operative word choice, right? It has to be our choice to do the work. Yeah. So choosing to check in. And then when you do that, you just focus your attention inward. And you just notice inside what, and do this with yourself right now as I talk to you. You don't have to say anything.

It would look like raging or drinking or binging or whatever it is. Yep. And so choosing to check in is the operative word choice, right? It has to be our choice to do the work. Yeah. So choosing to check in. And then when you do that, you just focus your attention inward. And you just notice inside what, and do this with yourself right now as I talk to you. You don't have to say anything.

Just think about a part that's pretty active. You know, there's stuff that's going on. Yeah. And so just think about that part that might be up right now and just choose to check in if you feel called. Mm-hmm. And just become a little curious about that part of you. So where does it live in your body? And you don't have to respond just for yourself. Where does it live in your body?

Just think about a part that's pretty active. You know, there's stuff that's going on. Yeah. And so just think about that part that might be up right now and just choose to check in if you feel called. Mm-hmm. And just become a little curious about that part of you. So where does it live in your body? And you don't have to respond just for yourself. Where does it live in your body?

And what does it feel like? And what do you know about it? You can say to the part, you know, how old are you? How long have you been around? Oh, wow. Yeah. And also just getting a little bit more curious, you can, you know, say, show me any images or some kind of story or thoughts that might be associated with the part. You could ask it to speak to you.

And what does it feel like? And what do you know about it? You can say to the part, you know, how old are you? How long have you been around? Oh, wow. Yeah. And also just getting a little bit more curious, you can, you know, say, show me any images or some kind of story or thoughts that might be associated with the part. You could ask it to speak to you.

Yeah. And then the third, once you feel a little bit connected to that part, which I even noticed that you got that connection, you can connect even further by saying to the part, compassionately connect and ask that part of you, what do you need? Yeah. And then you'll hear often the part where we'll say, I need a hug or I need to rest or I need to dance or I need to play or I need to be seen.

Yeah. And then the third, once you feel a little bit connected to that part, which I even noticed that you got that connection, you can connect even further by saying to the part, compassionately connect and ask that part of you, what do you need? Yeah. And then you'll hear often the part where we'll say, I need a hug or I need to rest or I need to dance or I need to play or I need to be seen.

It's taking care of that inner child. You're giving it the attention that it always wanted.

It's taking care of that inner child. You're giving it the attention that it always wanted.

And then the last step is really just a nice step. You can just check for those C qualities of self. Like, do you feel a little bit more calm?

And then the last step is really just a nice step. You can just check for those C qualities of self. Like, do you feel a little bit more calm?