Gabby Bernstein

choose to check in make a choice yes because remember parts are like little children so if you try to force something on a little child like if i try to go to ollie and say to him bro what the hell is going on you seem upset let's talk about it he's like no mommy like get away mommy right so he there has to be some buy-in okay so there's some buy-in and i'm going to choose to check in

choose to check in make a choice yes because remember parts are like little children so if you try to force something on a little child like if i try to go to ollie and say to him bro what the hell is going on you seem upset let's talk about it he's like no mommy like get away mommy right so he there has to be some buy-in okay so there's some buy-in and i'm going to choose to check in

It's both. Okay. So it's the choice is a self like quality, but the part has to make the choice.

It's both. Okay. So it's the choice is a self like quality, but the part has to make the choice.

Yeah, it has to be my presence of self and his willingness.

Yeah, it has to be my presence of self and his willingness.

Openness, yeah.

Openness, yeah.

Yeah, yeah. You never know. When he gets older. When he's 16, yeah, yeah. When he's 16 years old, he might say things like this. He might say, screw you, mommy. Yeah, yeah. So who makes you think of Cartman? Do you know that I do a really good Cartman? Screw you, man. I'm getting hit. That's good. I'm really good at it. That's good. Choose to check in. So choose to check in.

Yeah, yeah. You never know. When he gets older. When he's 16, yeah, yeah. When he's 16 years old, he might say things like this. He might say, screw you, mommy. Yeah, yeah. So who makes you think of Cartman? Do you know that I do a really good Cartman? Screw you, man. I'm getting hit. That's good. I'm really good at it. That's good. Choose to check in. So choose to check in.

Detour from compartment. Choose to check in. So you have this awareness that the part's triggered and you're saying, okay, I'm going to choose to check in right now. So step one, that's it. Choose. And if you know that you feel that buy-in, like, okay, the part's ready to go, we can keep going, right?

Detour from compartment. Choose to check in. So you have this awareness that the part's triggered and you're saying, okay, I'm going to choose to check in right now. So step one, that's it. Choose. And if you know that you feel that buy-in, like, okay, the part's ready to go, we can keep going, right?

Choosing to check in is also just sometimes even having the awareness that you need to check in because that's step one. Step two is curiosity. Become curious. These are all C qualities, remember, right? So it's like acting as if. And so the curiosity is start. So I'm in this place where this manager is up and she's like, what the going on here? I have to do everything. Nobody else will do it.

Choosing to check in is also just sometimes even having the awareness that you need to check in because that's step one. Step two is curiosity. Become curious. These are all C qualities, remember, right? So it's like acting as if. And so the curiosity is start. So I'm in this place where this manager is up and she's like, what the going on here? I have to do everything. Nobody else will do it.

And so I choose to check in with her and I become curious and I start to notice the feelings and the thoughts and the sensations inside. I start asking her questions like, where do you feel that in your body? And she's like, I'm not breathing. And there's tension in my chest. And I start to say, you know, what kind of thoughts or sensations?

And so I choose to check in with her and I become curious and I start to notice the feelings and the thoughts and the sensations inside. I start asking her questions like, where do you feel that in your body? And she's like, I'm not breathing. And there's tension in my chest. And I start to say, you know, what kind of thoughts or sensations?

And her thoughts are like, what the fuck is going on here?

And her thoughts are like, what the fuck is going on here?

And I ask her for any images or visions. And she shows me my six-year-old self in my dining room with my pigtails. And I'm screaming. No bumps, no bumps. Because the only way that I could find control in this out of control life that I had was to control the bumps in my pigtails.

And I ask her for any images or visions. And she shows me my six-year-old self in my dining room with my pigtails. And I'm screaming. No bumps, no bumps. Because the only way that I could find control in this out of control life that I had was to control the bumps in my pigtails.