Gabby Bernstein

Yeah. And you know when Oprah does that thing where she repeats back what she takes in, she repeats it back. And I can see that really resonated with her because it's so often that we get these messages and we don't actually do anything with them, that we don't take the action.

Yeah. And you know when Oprah does that thing where she repeats back what she takes in, she repeats it back. And I can see that really resonated with her because it's so often that we get these messages and we don't actually do anything with them, that we don't take the action.

Well, I believe that any form of addiction or disordered eating or body dysmorphia or body image issues—I don't even want to call them issues, just experiences—are problems. based on these impermissible experiences from a very young age.

Well, I believe that any form of addiction or disordered eating or body dysmorphia or body image issues—I don't even want to call them issues, just experiences—are problems. based on these impermissible experiences from a very young age.

And when we, as children, experience the shaming or the experience of any kind of physical trauma or any kind of emotional experience or any form of trauma with a big T or a small T, we build up a lot of protection mechanisms to never have to face those feelings again. Right.

And when we, as children, experience the shaming or the experience of any kind of physical trauma or any kind of emotional experience or any form of trauma with a big T or a small T, we build up a lot of protection mechanisms to never have to face those feelings again. Right.

And so oftentimes one of those protection mechanisms can be disordered eating, it can be binging, it can be anorexia, it can be just very, very horrible thoughts and beliefs about our bodies. the ways that we run from those core beliefs are scary, right? For me, it was binging, it was overeating, it was cocaine, it was alcohol, it was work addiction, it was love addiction.

And so oftentimes one of those protection mechanisms can be disordered eating, it can be binging, it can be anorexia, it can be just very, very horrible thoughts and beliefs about our bodies. the ways that we run from those core beliefs are scary, right? For me, it was binging, it was overeating, it was cocaine, it was alcohol, it was work addiction, it was love addiction.

And all of these addictions are the exact same because they have the same root cause. The root cause is the little people inside of us that just were traumatized in some way, big T or small T. And we did not have the resources or the adult parental figures to help us work it out, to help us heal, to help us feel that safety inside, to help us get back to that sensation of courage and connection.

And all of these addictions are the exact same because they have the same root cause. The root cause is the little people inside of us that just were traumatized in some way, big T or small T. And we did not have the resources or the adult parental figures to help us work it out, to help us heal, to help us feel that safety inside, to help us get back to that sensation of courage and connection.

And so what did we do? We picked up the food. We picked up the alcohol. We picked up the judgment. We picked up the self-attack. We picked up the behaviors that we've lived with for decades and decades and decades. And we will live with those protection mechanisms from very young years. We'll live with them forever until we start to address the root cause condition.

And so what did we do? We picked up the food. We picked up the alcohol. We picked up the judgment. We picked up the self-attack. We picked up the behaviors that we've lived with for decades and decades and decades. And we will live with those protection mechanisms from very young years. We'll live with them forever until we start to address the root cause condition.

And there's so many ways that we could, you know, we could do this program or we could read this thing or we could use this diet or we could do this abstinence thing or whatever it might be. But the real healing The way to truly cure these kinds of conditions is to take care of the little people, the little girl, the little boy inside of us that desperately needs our attention.

And there's so many ways that we could, you know, we could do this program or we could read this thing or we could use this diet or we could do this abstinence thing or whatever it might be. But the real healing The way to truly cure these kinds of conditions is to take care of the little people, the little girl, the little boy inside of us that desperately needs our attention.

And when that young part of us has the privilege of being seen by us, and being soothed and being honored and respected and listened to, it can settle down. And when these younger extreme parts of us settle, the protection mechanisms can settle too. The fighting back, the binging, the addiction. It can settle because when that young part of us, like a little child inside of us, right?

And when that young part of us has the privilege of being seen by us, and being soothed and being honored and respected and listened to, it can settle down. And when these younger extreme parts of us settle, the protection mechanisms can settle too. The fighting back, the binging, the addiction. It can settle because when that young part of us, like a little child inside of us, right?

When it feels safe with us, when your kid's safe, with you. Doesn't need to act out, right? When your child, when your own children are safe with you, they don't need to act out. When my son feels safe and he knows my presence is there and he feels my compassion and connection, he doesn't need to act out. They act out when they're unsafe.

When it feels safe with us, when your kid's safe, with you. Doesn't need to act out, right? When your child, when your own children are safe with you, they don't need to act out. When my son feels safe and he knows my presence is there and he feels my compassion and connection, he doesn't need to act out. They act out when they're unsafe.

And so what would happen if we treated our own little children that way?

And so what would happen if we treated our own little children that way?