Gabby Bernstein

And we have to come back to the space between the stimulus and the response, right? Most people may not have the space to even slightly adjust from being triggered and going into the protection mechanism, to the protector part. So that's why I'm going to say when you first start this book, do it with the parts that's around all the time that you have enough awareness of.

Like anxiety is a good one. Like checking in with your anxiety. You know what you can voice. Oh, I'm anxious right now. And so there's a whole chapter in the book called Anxious Parts. And so you can just, the next time you notice that your anxiety is really taking over and you're willing to do whatever it takes, read that chapter and check in with your anxious part and give it attention.

Like anxiety is a good one. Like checking in with your anxiety. You know what you can voice. Oh, I'm anxious right now. And so there's a whole chapter in the book called Anxious Parts. And so you can just, the next time you notice that your anxiety is really taking over and you're willing to do whatever it takes, read that chapter and check in with your anxious part and give it attention.

Like anxiety is a good one. Like checking in with your anxiety. You know what you can voice. Oh, I'm anxious right now. And so there's a whole chapter in the book called Anxious Parts. And so you can just, the next time you notice that your anxiety is really taking over and you're willing to do whatever it takes, read that chapter and check in with your anxious part and give it attention.

Totally, totally.

Totally, totally.

Totally, totally.

Totally. Because what we often try to do with these extreme patterns or these feelings is we try to push them down or numb them out or avoid them or shame them. And instead, what if we just looked at the part and said, oh, I see you anxiety. I know that you're there. Maybe we can choose to check in with you. What you're doing also is you're recognizing that it's not who you are.

Totally. Because what we often try to do with these extreme patterns or these feelings is we try to push them down or numb them out or avoid them or shame them. And instead, what if we just looked at the part and said, oh, I see you anxiety. I know that you're there. Maybe we can choose to check in with you. What you're doing also is you're recognizing that it's not who you are.

Totally. Because what we often try to do with these extreme patterns or these feelings is we try to push them down or numb them out or avoid them or shame them. And instead, what if we just looked at the part and said, oh, I see you anxiety. I know that you're there. Maybe we can choose to check in with you. What you're doing also is you're recognizing that it's not who you are.

It's just a part of who you are.

It's just a part of who you are.

It's just a part of who you are.

Beautiful. Yeah. I think that the pretenses that we place upon ourselves are also protectors. And the journey of healing spiritually and therapeutically is a journey of undoing the false pretenses that we've placed upon ourselves and returning to who we really are.

Beautiful. Yeah. I think that the pretenses that we place upon ourselves are also protectors. And the journey of healing spiritually and therapeutically is a journey of undoing the false pretenses that we've placed upon ourselves and returning to who we really are.

Beautiful. Yeah. I think that the pretenses that we place upon ourselves are also protectors. And the journey of healing spiritually and therapeutically is a journey of undoing the false pretenses that we've placed upon ourselves and returning to who we really are.

Even just noticing that space and just seeing it for a moment is a huge win.

Even just noticing that space and just seeing it for a moment is a huge win.

Even just noticing that space and just seeing it for a moment is a huge win.

That's the whole point of this check-in process. Because the more you check in, the less you check out, the more space you create. And then the easier it is, like any habit, to choose to check in instead of check out.