Gabby Bernstein

Because if I'm an anxious state, I don't have to feel the horror and the fear and terror of that other state. So that's a manager, the parts of us that are with us all day long, managing the big feelings of the exile. Okay.

Because if I'm an anxious state, I don't have to feel the horror and the fear and terror of that other state. So that's a manager, the parts of us that are with us all day long, managing the big feelings of the exile. Okay.

And then when the managers don't work anymore, like let's say something very big happens in your life, something extreme, and the managing is no longer working, that's when the firefighters come in. The firefighters will do whatever it takes to put out the fire of those impermissible feelings.

And then when the managers don't work anymore, like let's say something very big happens in your life, something extreme, and the managing is no longer working, that's when the firefighters come in. The firefighters will do whatever it takes to put out the fire of those impermissible feelings.

And that's when you pick up the drugs, pick up the workaholism, pick up the alcohol, the sex, the porn, the binging. the extreme addictive parts of ourselves. And those are the most extreme parts of us are the ones that are working the hardest to keep us safe from those feelings. And then there's good news. You ready for the good news? Yeah. We all have an inner parent inside of us.

And that's when you pick up the drugs, pick up the workaholism, pick up the alcohol, the sex, the porn, the binging. the extreme addictive parts of ourselves. And those are the most extreme parts of us are the ones that are working the hardest to keep us safe from those feelings. And then there's good news. You ready for the good news? Yeah. We all have an inner parent inside of us.

So those are all the young children inside, right? The exiles, the managers, the firefighters, right? The protectors and the exiles. They're all like running our world, right? Where like one trigger happens, this protector shows up, another trigger happens, it's like protector to protector. It's like a boxing match all day long, walking through life.

So those are all the young children inside, right? The exiles, the managers, the firefighters, right? The protectors and the exiles. They're all like running our world, right? Where like one trigger happens, this protector shows up, another trigger happens, it's like protector to protector. It's like a boxing match all day long, walking through life.

Exhausting. Why do people have burnout? Why do people have stress? Why do people have chronic pain? Of course, there's a whole chapter in the book called Body Parts, how the body, like physical pain is a protector.

Exhausting. Why do people have burnout? Why do people have stress? Why do people have chronic pain? Of course, there's a whole chapter in the book called Body Parts, how the body, like physical pain is a protector.

Like if I have back pain, I don't have to feel my childhood wounds. We're going to get into that. The good news is that we all have what Dick Schwartz has coined is self with a capital S and self is our adult, undamaged, resourced part of who we are. It's the truth of who we are. It's the spirit of who we are. It's the God within us. It is an energy and self has eight C qualities.

Like if I have back pain, I don't have to feel my childhood wounds. We're going to get into that. The good news is that we all have what Dick Schwartz has coined is self with a capital S and self is our adult, undamaged, resourced part of who we are. It's the truth of who we are. It's the spirit of who we are. It's the God within us. It is an energy and self has eight C qualities.

compassion, calm, connection, creativity, courage, clarity, commitment. I'm missing one. I don't even know. I always miss a C. They're all in there. And connectedness. I think I got to them. We'll find the eight Cs in the book and we'll get these together.

compassion, calm, connection, creativity, courage, clarity, commitment. I'm missing one. I don't even know. I always miss a C. They're all in there. And connectedness. I think I got to them. We'll find the eight Cs in the book and we'll get these together.

You know, it's so funny. Confidence is the one I always miss, but it's the one that I often feel we're quite connected to. So I won't forget confidence anymore.

You know, it's so funny. Confidence is the one I always miss, but it's the one that I often feel we're quite connected to. So I won't forget confidence anymore.

So I'm going to really try to keep this simple. So just think about it like you have an inner parent.

So I'm going to really try to keep this simple. So just think about it like you have an inner parent.

We all do. And let's just keep it simple. Let's keep it super simple. You know those times in your life when, let's say Marta came to you and she was really struggling with something and you just, your heart was filled up with compassion. No matter how extreme the thing that happened to her, you just felt connected to her. You were a calm presence for her.

We all do. And let's just keep it simple. Let's keep it super simple. You know those times in your life when, let's say Marta came to you and she was really struggling with something and you just, your heart was filled up with compassion. No matter how extreme the thing that happened to her, you just felt connected to her. You were a calm presence for her.