Gabby Bernstein

And so that controller... isn't a bad part of who I am. It's not a bad quality. It's a protection mechanism. And so throughout this book, I'm helping the reader recognize that these extreme patterns and behaviors that we have, whether it's binging or drugs or alcohol or control or- Busyness. Busyness or rage or checking out with Netflix or dissociation or even things that might be seemingly

And so that controller... isn't a bad part of who I am. It's not a bad quality. It's a protection mechanism. And so throughout this book, I'm helping the reader recognize that these extreme patterns and behaviors that we have, whether it's binging or drugs or alcohol or control or- Busyness. Busyness or rage or checking out with Netflix or dissociation or even things that might be seemingly

Great, right? Those of us who are really big workers, workaholism is something that's praised in our society, but it's actually a protection mechanism, right? Because if I'm working, I don't have to feel those impermissible feelings. Or if I'm in control, I don't have to feel that things are out of control, or I don't have to feel the fear.

Great, right? Those of us who are really big workers, workaholism is something that's praised in our society, but it's actually a protection mechanism, right? Because if I'm working, I don't have to feel those impermissible feelings. Or if I'm in control, I don't have to feel that things are out of control, or I don't have to feel the fear.

And so there's young exiled parts of us that were traumatized as children, and they were never tended to, and we shut them down. We say, I never want to feel that again. It could also be in adult experiences, like if someone's had violence or if they've lived through a catastrophic event, they exile those feelings. I never want to feel that again.

And so there's young exiled parts of us that were traumatized as children, and they were never tended to, and we shut them down. We say, I never want to feel that again. It could also be in adult experiences, like if someone's had violence or if they've lived through a catastrophic event, they exile those feelings. I never want to feel that again.

And so I'm going to, even spiritually bypassing as a protector. And I'm calling it, it's a protection mechanism, but for the sake of the book, I'm calling it a protector part. It's a part of you. And so we have all these parts of us inside that are managing these big feelings, the little children. And so what do we do?

And so I'm going to, even spiritually bypassing as a protector. And I'm calling it, it's a protection mechanism, but for the sake of the book, I'm calling it a protector part. It's a part of you. And so we have all these parts of us inside that are managing these big feelings, the little children. And so what do we do?

We live our lives from trigger to protector, trigger to protector, trigger to protector. I mean, anyone that's walking through life feeling anxiety is anxiety is a protector.

We live our lives from trigger to protector, trigger to protector, trigger to protector. I mean, anyone that's walking through life feeling anxiety is anxiety is a protector.

We live our lives from trigger to protector, trigger to protector, trigger to protector. I mean, anyone that's walking through life feeling anxiety is anxiety is a protector. If we're living with if we're living with just, you know, we can't actually manage our feelings or we're enraged or whatever it is. These are protection mechanisms.

We live our lives from trigger to protector, trigger to protector, trigger to protector. I mean, anyone that's walking through life feeling anxiety is anxiety is a protector. If we're living with if we're living with just, you know, we can't actually manage our feelings or we're enraged or whatever it is. These are protection mechanisms.

We've already started diving in.

We've already started diving in.

So on the covers is self-help. And then the subtitle is, this is your chance to change your life.

So on the covers is self-help. And then the subtitle is, this is your chance to change your life.

And I'm going to stand behind that with full body conviction because the four-step practice that I've created in this is based on a therapy that changed my life. And it was my mission. I went and got trained in this therapy called internal family systems therapy. And I got trained by the IFS Institute. And with that training, I knew it was my mission. Literally, God told me.

And I'm going to stand behind that with full body conviction because the four-step practice that I've created in this is based on a therapy that changed my life. And it was my mission. I went and got trained in this therapy called internal family systems therapy. And I got trained by the IFS Institute. And with that training, I knew it was my mission. Literally, God told me.

to democratize this work, to take it out of the therapist's office and give it to people in everyday life. And maybe they will go on to do IFS therapy, or maybe they'll just use my four-step practice. But it's a four-step self-help practice that's informed by IFS. And really what I started teaching already, and I know it will change their life if they choose to do it. That's it.

to democratize this work, to take it out of the therapist's office and give it to people in everyday life. And maybe they will go on to do IFS therapy, or maybe they'll just use my four-step practice. But it's a four-step self-help practice that's informed by IFS. And really what I started teaching already, and I know it will change their life if they choose to do it. That's it.