Gabby Bernstein

So in IFS, internal family systems therapy, I'm going to break this down. So we're going to talk around it. Let's just break it down from the get-go. Okay. So my gift in this lifetime is to just simplify big ideas. And my gift to Dick Schwartz, who's one of my cherished friends, the founder of IFS, is to take his extraordinary body of work that healed my life and to translate it and demystify it.

So in IFS, internal family systems therapy, I'm going to break this down. So we're going to talk around it. Let's just break it down from the get-go. Okay. So my gift in this lifetime is to just simplify big ideas. And my gift to Dick Schwartz, who's one of my cherished friends, the founder of IFS, is to take his extraordinary body of work that healed my life and to translate it and demystify it.

And simplify it. And simplify it and democratize it. So here we are. Internal family systems therapy is not about your external family. It's about an inner family of parts of us. So we have these lots of little children inside.

And simplify it. And simplify it and democratize it. So here we are. Internal family systems therapy is not about your external family. It's about an inner family of parts of us. So we have these lots of little children inside.

It does and it doesn't. Let me keep it simple, right? Have you ever said a part of me gets really outraged when Marta does this or a part of me flips out when I can't control something?

It does and it doesn't. Let me keep it simple, right? Have you ever said a part of me gets really outraged when Marta does this or a part of me flips out when I can't control something?

Yeah, yes. You're kind of familiar with those parts of yourself. You even said it earlier. A part of me is really, I don't even know if you said a part of me, maybe, but you're like, I can be really impatient.

Yeah, yes. You're kind of familiar with those parts of yourself. You even said it earlier. A part of me is really, I don't even know if you said a part of me, maybe, but you're like, I can be really impatient.

And these parts of us, often the extreme ones, are protection mechanisms. So the controlling aspects, the managing of the day-to-day things that we have to get done, the perfectionism, the overthinking, the playing small, these extreme roles that we play in momentary situations in our life, or really sometimes all day, every day, are protection mechanisms.

And these parts of us, often the extreme ones, are protection mechanisms. So the controlling aspects, the managing of the day-to-day things that we have to get done, the perfectionism, the overthinking, the playing small, these extreme roles that we play in momentary situations in our life, or really sometimes all day, every day, are protection mechanisms.

So the extreme, so if you look at your life and you're saying, okay, there's parts of me that I don't like, or there's parts of me or ways I act out that feel extreme, or there's behaviors that I have that I just can't kick, addiction, overeating, drinking. And you see these things that you do, these behaviors that you have that you just don't know how to change.

So the extreme, so if you look at your life and you're saying, okay, there's parts of me that I don't like, or there's parts of me or ways I act out that feel extreme, or there's behaviors that I have that I just can't kick, addiction, overeating, drinking. And you see these things that you do, these behaviors that you have that you just don't know how to change.

It's because they're very, very young parts of yourself. They've been around for a very long time.

It's because they're very, very young parts of yourself. They've been around for a very long time.

They never got a chance to grow up, these parts of you.

They never got a chance to grow up, these parts of you.

Okay, so let me get this. Let me keep it simple. So I'm going to keep coming back to the simplicity, okay? Like I'm putting my, okay, let's keep it simple.

Okay, so let me get this. Let me keep it simple. So I'm going to keep coming back to the simplicity, okay? Like I'm putting my, okay, let's keep it simple.

We can have many, many parts of us. So let's keep it simple. So very young. We grow up where we come into this world. We're like these perfect little people. We're so happy. Everything's beautiful. Hopefully we enter the world in a safe, peaceful way. And from a very young age, we start to experience the burdens of the world. A parent that doesn't have a strong attachment.

We can have many, many parts of us. So let's keep it simple. So very young. We grow up where we come into this world. We're like these perfect little people. We're so happy. Everything's beautiful. Hopefully we enter the world in a safe, peaceful way. And from a very young age, we start to experience the burdens of the world. A parent that doesn't have a strong attachment.