Gabriel Mizrahi

Yes.

But then there's also the layer of this, like we talked about, that's about her past.

Not at all.

No, I just think it's always a good idea to ask what part of this situation is what this person is doing to me and what part of this is how I'm responding or making sense of what they're doing to me.

I do want to be very clear about this.

Your partner has an addiction, even if it's a relatively mild one, although I'm kind of getting a mixed picture about that, to be honest.

It's moderate.

I don't know.

That's a lot of booze, dog.

It is a lot of booze.

And being in a relationship with somebody who is addicted and doesn't seem to want to meaningfully work on it, that is always, always going to expose you to a certain amount of chaos and hurt.

So that is fair.

but then there's still how you're making meaning out of that hurt, and that is playing a big role here too.

That's what Jordan is saying.

But there are a couple other questions you might want to be asking right now, too.

One of them is, are you actually prepared to leave if he doesn't quit the alcohol and tobacco?

Maybe the answer is yes.

Maybe it's no.

I do wonder if you've really thought deeply about that.

It sounds to me like emotions are running pretty high these days.