Gabriel Mizrahi

If my son cried while my mother-in-law was holding him, she became upset and sometimes gave him dirty looks.

She's called him a mama's boy and a wuss, and she consistently calls attention to his attachment to me in a negative way.

Yeah, he's an infant.

One time, I calmly and clearly told her that it's never okay to call my son names.

She started to cry and quickly redirected, saying she felt like she just couldn't please me.

She frequently pouts when she doesn't get her way and does not take accountability for her actions.

My in-laws also have a history of overstepping our boundaries.

For example, they dropped by our home to visit our son after my husband and I repeatedly said that we didn't want visitors that day.

At every family gathering, they ask if my son can have sweets, even though they know we aren't giving him sugar yet.

They watched TV with him after we told them we weren't allowing that.

I know pushing boundaries can be normal for grandparents, but they have a clear pattern of directly contradicting our requests if they disagree.

I also recently learned that my father-in-law choked my husband when he was growing up and even punched his brother in the face at the dinner table in front of their entire family.

This makes me incredibly sad for my husband and his siblings and makes me worry about my own son's safety.

My in-laws have encouraged spanking and my mother-in-law has repeatedly told me a story about how her husband spanked their daughter before she was even a year old.

Oh my god, come on.

When my son was four months old, my husband and I left him with them for a few hours to go on a date.

When we returned, my mother-in-law told me that her husband raised his voice at him while he was crying and it seemed to quiet him down.

If he's comfortable yelling at an infant and choking his own son, I don't plan on leaving my son alone with him.

Oh, interesting.

Yeah.