Gabriel Mizrahi

Not a crazy thing to want, but that seems to be coming up against the positions of her faith, or at least how she understands them and subscribes to them.

Blasphemous, she called it.

Quite a word.

So I'm sure that speaks to how powerful a lot of the ideas of a religion are and perhaps how non-negotiable they are or they are to her.

So to be extremely logical about this for a moment, once you run into this tension, there are only a couple moves, right?

Either she did do something wrong and her beliefs are right,

and she violated some moral principle, she needs to repent, and all the guilt and the remorse are appropriate.

Although my understanding, and I am not an expert, but my understanding is that Christianity, like most religions, also has a way of working through all of that.

There's forgiveness, there's repentance, there's coming to a new understanding, so there's that.

Or option two, she didn't do something wrong or what she did falls into perhaps a gray area where it doesn't neatly fall into right or wrong.

And by the way, that might be part of what is creating her anxiety because it is ambiguous.

Maybe that's the case and she needs to revisit some of her beliefs and assumptions.

Either her faith is correct or her faith isn't correct.

It sounds to me like she's saying my faith is correct and I did something terrible, which again, she's allowed to hold that view.

My perspective, though, is more it's really unfortunate that you had to make that call without the information you needed.

But like Jordan, I understand your reasons, given your family, and you might get further trying to appreciate your reasons for doing what you did at the time than judging and berating yourself after the fact.

I hear that, but to be fair, you're shifting the question to some degree.

I recognize that.

She might say, well, I didn't realize that terminating the pregnancy was wrong no matter what, so my reasons really don't matter.

But I guess what I'm getting at is, is deciding whether this was ethical by reference only to her religion...