Gary Brecka

Again, I wonder if you would like give us some context around that, too, because when I do stage talks and podcasts and lectures and I'll just generally ask the audience, you know, how many of you suffer from anxiety?

Right.

70% of the audience will raise their hand.

Like, wow, there can't be a condition, you know, a pathology that exists at that scale.

Yeah.

Right.

So it must be something endemic in society that's causing people to feel.

Yeah.

Anxiety and.

It's like this thing is happening now.

Yeah, I'm standing on the edge of a 30th floor balcony and I'm afraid heights.

And all it has to predict is what's happened in the past.

I mean, it only has this experience, and then it just supplants that experience in the future.

Well, my relationships never work out.

Um, you know, so I'm be shocked if this one did, you know, um, and I've even heard sports psychiatrists and sports psychologists talk about how, um, they'll work with professional athletes and, uh, a golfer will walk up to something they need to one putt and he'll just, he'll say out loud, probably going to two putt this, you know, um,

in some ways allowing themselves to fail by, but meeting their expectation of failure, which in a weird way,

makes them less anxious because see i told you i was going to do about it yeah um and and then when they fail they've met the expectation of failure yeah um there's this classic saying in psychology which is that people would rather be right than happy that yeah that's exactly and it's that's a perfect example of that so do you think that we frame things like that um

either as a defense mechanism or without even being aware that we're doing that.

And therefore we're sort of subtly setting ourselves up to achieve mediocrity, to strive for mediocrity and just stay in that comfortable soup of, you know, not taking too much risk and staying.

So our life is never great.