Gary Vee
speaker
561 appearances
2 recordings
2 series
first heard May 2025
last heard Sep 2025
Gary Vee’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Like, so much of what drives me today is the fact that there is an enormous amount of 13, 14, 15, 16-year-olds that think I'm cool because of Instagram, and I am secretly... so grateful for the opportunity to form some of their opinions. I really am.
A woman the other day tweeted yesterday, she took a screenshot of a text message with her and her son, and she said, finally, finally, finally, somebody's penetrated my son, and I can't tell you how good it made me feel.
They started in fourth grade, I believe, when I decided consciously off of intuition and feelings that I didn't believe in school and that I knew. Think about how young you are.
It's dicey if you hold the institution of school being on a pedestal. And I think that's fine. I want none of my opinions to be anyone else's opinion. I wanna share my opinions that I've lived or I've observed very closely and want to talk about them. I get 10,000 DMs a week from children 13 to 20 saying things that they would never tell their parents.
And so when I say things about, hey parents, you're buying your daughter a BMW because she's begging for it. But she's telling me behind the scenes that I hate my parents for making my life so easy. Now that kid's talking out of both sides of their mouth, but they're a 15 year old. And so what's the decision making process? That is an unbelievable conversation.
We have a whole generation of parents shitting on millennials, but they're the ones who raised that entitlement. I think of it as enormous self-esteem building in parallel with radical candor and lack of entitlement. And that's what I think my mom did. She told me I was the best, but when I went 0 for 4 in a little league game, she didn't blame the umpire or my coach.
She said, you weren't good enough.
But it's very rare in our society today because parents want to build self-esteem, but what they actually did was build entitlement. And kids got soft. And we're collectively soft because we didn't pay the piper and have a recession in 2009. Everything is materialistic. We all care to keep up with the Joneses. Everybody's valuing everybody's opinions.
Opinions are flying heavier and more black and white than ever because of social media. And we've gotten into this massive cocoon of everybody's listening to every voice but their own. And then when some people tell me, well, Gary, my voice says I suck. I'm like, that's not your voice. You've taken on the voice of someone else. Sure.
Lady Gaga said something yesterday on social, because she crushed the Met Gala, and she said something like, I once had a boyfriend who told me I would never be famous, that I would never win a Grammy, did you see this? And she said, and I replied to him by saying, one day after we're broken up, You're not gonna be able to go to the deli without hearing my name or seeing my face.
And I just so understand that. I was told by the system, by my report card, by the friends, parents, by my teachers, by everybody that I would be a failure. D's and F's. You're gonna be a failure in life. The only voice I listened to was my own. Instilled by your mom. Correct. Through self-esteem. I'll never forget it. Opening a door for an elderly woman when I was eight years old at a McDonald's.
I can see it now. Oak Tree Road, Bradley's, Edison, New Jersey, 1983. maybe 84, before November, opening a door for a woman, sunny day, and my mom went off as if I won a Nobel Peace Prize. She instilled positive reinforcement around a very good behavior. My mom also punished me on every report card. She punished me consistently through high school.
No Nintendo, no TV, no phone, no friends, no going out, all the way through my senior year of high school. Even though I was proving to her that I was capable, sports cards, helping my dad's business, she held me accountable. I was still a student, and I was failing at school, and thus you should pay the price. That accountability mattered. A lot of moms and dads are overacting the other way.
They've decided entrepreneurship is cool, their kid's getting Fs, and they're like, hey, you're gonna be an entrepreneur, but what I'm worried about is they're creating entitlement. And so this tightrope of self-esteem building while being accountable is remarkably difficult. And then...
Back to like the 6th to 10th grade of like I like girls but I'm scared to ask them out because I don't want rejection. I also didn't conform to peer pressure ever. And that was because I just couldn't hear anybody else's voice. I couldn't hear anybody else's voice but my own.
You know where it comes from? Also balancing it with empathy. Let me give you my perspective on when I read something that says, well, you're a crackhead, Gary. Or you're a charlatan. Or you're lucky. Or your daddy gave it to you. When they don't know the story of what I actually did at Wine Library. All those things penetrate first level hurt. You know, nobody wants to hear it.
But immediately my place doesn't go into I'm confident, fuck you. My place goes to, man. God, thank you God for not letting me live a life where I would actually take the time to spend and consume somebody's content. I don't even consume anybody's content to begin with, let alone consume with the interest to tear that person down.
You have to be so unhappy inside to wanna manifest tearing somebody else down. And I, listen, I don't like talking about this, but this is your first episode and I want to give you something. Thank you.
You know, she has dementia now, she's been in essence gone for five to seven years, but she's been gone to me for 25 years because she was the singular most negative person I'd ever come across in my life. And the reason I checked out from her at 16, 17, 18, whenever I did, was because she spent 100% of her time tearing down other people. My father, My mother. It's your father's mother. Yes.
My aunt. My sister. She tried to do it to me but I was like so in a... Like, you know, she gave up on tearing me down, I think, at some level because she could sense that I didn't give a fuck. You know, but nonetheless... I'm disproportionately optimistic and positive, but I live, my grandma spent her whole summer with us, every summer.
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