Gemma Mullins

Now, the next point I want to make, or do you want to go?

And this is just like a little bit of a tip or something that I was taught years ago when I first started my business and when I was taught a very traditional way of like sales and selling, right?

Which is not anything that I like to do now.

But this thing kind of was engraved in my head and I want to share it with you guys because I think that this will help

you really improve your communication style if you are someone who struggles to communicate, is actually adopting, I am going to listen to listen, not listen to speak.

There is so many people that you have a conversation with

And I can tell within three seconds that they have not listened to a single word that I have said because they are so focused on focusing on what they're going to say next or to add to the story.

And when you are thinking about improving your communication skills, if you have great communication skills and you don't care about this stuff, this episode is obviously not for you.

But if you want to improve your communication skills, one of the best things that you can do is to really listen to listen and actually listen to what somebody is telling you.

If you're in business, this is going to help a hell of a lot.

with being able to connect with people, to build an audience online if you're wanting it to be more engaged, to actually be able to figure out whether or not you are the perfect person to help that person with the problem that they are currently facing.

And honestly, when I learned that, I was like, whoa, I was the person that used to listen to fucking speak.

I used to cut people off.

I used to interrupt.

I used to add my story on top of their story.

And like sometimes that's okay.

Like naturally humans, we want to be relatable.

But also if I'm in a conversation with someone and they're just trying to one-up me with every story that I say, automatically I'm disengaging.

And I probably won't want to ever really –

Speak to that person again because I won't feel like we have anything in common.