Gemma Mullins

So don't think like that.

It's not useful.

And also the more that we collaborate, the better everybody gets.

I love that.

Let's get into a listener question.

Go for it.

Yeah, I love how you worded that as well because I think when it comes to conflict and it comes to having these tough conversations, it can come across like a tacky, like they might feel like, oh, well, what have I done wrong?

I've just gotten this thing.

But I think you being like, this is how this makes me feel because of my shit and I'm trying to talk to you about it because I want you to understand what I'm going through.

And then like Kate said, that conversation and the way that that's approached can then be like, okay, cool.

Maybe I can help you.

Is there something I can do to help you get to where you're trying to get to?

Or just acknowledge that it's a feeling and move on.

I think that's hugely important as well.

Would I be friends with myself?

Are you a selfish friend?

Are you a good listener?

Everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager.

What's important to one person might not be that important to others, but if it's important to them, it's important to you.

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