Gemma Spake

We've not been here for very long.

It's going to run its course like any other sickness.

But when do you make the call that this may be something important to listen to?

Here's what we decided.

This is not professional psychological advice.

This is just us talking about it, me sharing it with you.

Obviously, make your own decision here.

But I think that if it's been more than a year, and if you have given this new place a really good shot, like you have really...

tried if you've made some friends if you've established a routine if you've gone three months without visiting home if this is not a momentary feeling but something you feel at least once a day intensely and it's not getting better even gradually then maybe it's not homesickness

Maybe this is just not where you are meant to be.

And that is a possibility within this.

The thing is, I do truly believe that you can make a home wherever you are.

But sometimes it's just that you don't want to.

And when you've really tried and you've really given it your all and you've given it a shot and the motivation still isn't there...

then I think you're always going to be homesick.

I don't know, maybe deep down, you have no desire to call this place your home.

It just goes beyond this level of adjustment and of safety.

Before you jump to that conclusion, because I think it's a very easy one to jump to if you are in the thick of things right now, I do think you owe it to yourself to commit as fully as you can for a period of time, just to avoid the what if of like prematurely closing a door or finishing a story that is seconds away from getting good.

I always say it takes three months to adjust to a new city, six months to feel okay about the decision, a year to decide whether it's the right decision long-term.

And I think having that equation, having that timeline or having like maybe even more so a deadline, um,