Gemma Spake

for when you can start reading into your homesickness is really helpful in this situation.

Like this timeline, this formula, it also matches a lot of what we know about psychological adaptation.

After a major life change, like moving cities, like changing jobs, going through a breakup, whatever it may be, our emotional state is always going to spike.

If it didn't, I'd be worried.

It's always going to spike.

Research though from the 70s shows that around the three to six month mark is when things start to return to what they call baseline level.

And that is what signals adjustment.

Until then, you just have to move through this.

Homesickness is like any emotion.

It might feel terrible.

I do also think it's trying to tell you something.

It's telling you that you have a lot to be grateful for.

It's also telling you that you're probably very scared, that you're very lost, you're very lonely.

Addressing those feelings first and foremost, knowing that sometimes it just takes time is really where you have to begin.

I think some people, and this is what I found, some people will tell you like, your homesickness is lying to you.

Like, just don't listen to it.

It's lying to you.

I don't think that's true.

It's not that your homesickness is lying to you.

It's not that there isn't something that you really do miss and you deserve to miss.