Gemma Spake

It's just that it's only telling you one story.

And it's only telling you the story of what you know, the story of what feels safe, the story of how amazing your friends are, the story of how much you miss your pets, the story of your routine.

It keeps telling you how wonderful that all was because it was wonderful.

What your homesickness is emitting, though, or making it hard for you to see is how wonderful things could be.

And the other story, the other situation that could also be told about where you are right now, which is that things get better, which is that things are going to start to pick up, which is that in a few months, you're going to start feeling more yourself.

You're going to have a few more friends.

And then one day, you're probably going to have one of those days where you're just like, everything is amazing.

Like that is the other story that you could tell yourself about the situation.

Two months time, you could have the best day of your life in this new place.

And you could feel just as grateful for this experience as you do for the home that you love so much.

Both stories are true.

And the trick is you need to focus on both of them at the same time.

This sucks right now.

I loved what I had and also something I didn't even know I wanted and could love as much is going to come from this.

There is something amazing on the horizon.

Hold both truths in either hand.

Again, so much of this advice is very breakup coded.

Sometimes it's nice to think that way of like, you're grateful for the relationship that you had, but you know you could find better.

It is a real psychological strategy.

So to summarize that, don't let the urgency of homesickness and the urgency of your stress response convince you that you've made a mistake and that you need to remedy it immediately.