Gemma Spake

See if they walk through it.

But don't let it set the precedent that you're going to do everything.

I just think it's like a really great first start.

If they don't match the intention and they don't ask you questions or ask you whether you want to meet up and about...

plans then I just don't simply think they're worth it if you've been the one to reach out you know you've made it as easy as possible for them to pick up on the momentum and if they don't the harsh truth is that they're simply just not that into you or just don't have the same capacity for conversation as you do for whatever reason that's when you apply that other rule that we have unmatched but rule number three a quick one I would say always reach out first

My fourth tip is to make your profile super clear and honest.

If you're going to survive the dating apps, give as much information as possible.

Overcome some of those choice overload barriers that other people are experiencing, that they're experiencing when they're looking at your profile, somebody else's profile.

Make yourself stand out in a really specific way.

I actually had a bit of a formula back in the day for how my profile should be set up.

I had this conversation with a dating coach actually on the podcast and she explained how she'd set up the profiles of her single clients on dating apps.

So let's assume you're using Hinge.

The photos she recommended you use were one close up, one full body, one with your friends, one doing a hobby or like something you love and one conversation starter.

So like your dog or like a meme or like a picture of like a broken foot.

I don't know.

Like this is the hook.

This is the picture that somebody can be like, ah, I'm going to grab onto this.

This is a conversation starter.

And she said it should always be the last picture.

So you kind of know like, hey, if someone has responded to this picture, they've swiped all the way through.