Gemma Spake

Clean up after yourself.

Keep it clutter free.

Okay, we're going to take another short break here.

But when we return, I have even more tips for you, plus a guide to how to meet people in person that I've seen be very successful with some of my friends.

So stay with us.

Okay, we are back.

Tip number three, talking about dating app guidelines.

I'm always of the belief that you should make the first move.

I don't care about rules.

I don't care about what roles men or women or people should play or dynamics or whatever it is.

I just think rule number six, less coy, more forwardness.

There's this really annoying thing that we see a lot in modern dating.

There's

Which is that like nobody wants to come off as being too keen, but actually being proactive and being the first one to move, to make that move often restores a lot of agency and makes it feel less impossible that you're going to meet somebody.

I think the worst thing that a dating app can do is make you feel passive, make you feel like you're waiting around for like someone to come across you and to select you or for the algorithms to serve you up somebody that you actually like.

That powerlessness is not the attitude or the feeling we want to have.

When you see someone you like, open the door for them.

The key thing here is that making the first move does not mean doing all the emotional labor.

Open the door.

See if they follow your lead.