Gemma Spake

We just fear rejection.

This is known as normative influence.

So I don't want to look weird, even though I hate those Ananas Sambas or whatever, like everybody's wearing them, so I better wear them.

Either way, the result is the same.

We all drift towards the center of what feels socially safe.

And clothing is especially vulnerable because it is so public.

And because it is tied in, yet again, to our identity and to how we see ourselves.

If you want to reclaim your personal style, here are four really easy ways to do it.

Number one, reduce the wardrobe clutter.

You know those pieces that I was talking about that we own and we would never wear?

um but we just keep them because they're cool or because we bought them because they were like the trend and like we want to be the kind of person who's going to wear them but we don't for me it's like this big fluffy hat and a couple other things but the fluffy hat in particular these pieces are mental clutter and they are blocking your personal style by increasing a sense of decision fatigue essentially giving you more options to consider and

when that option isn't really a true option, but you feel like you have to consider it.

You feel like it's kind of there.

And when you do finally choose it, you're never going to be comfortable in it anyways.

So basically you're just slowing down the process of getting dressed every morning.

So I need you to do a closet purge.

When you do a closet purge, what I need you to ask yourself is, have I worn this in the past three months or have I worn it at all?

And if it's not something like a big winter coat or like your wedding dress or a summer dress, you know you're going to wear heaps when the sun is back up.

sell it on Depop, give it to a friend, sell it on Vinted.

Start not from scratch, but from your favorites.