Gemma Spake

There's this one episode where Harrison Ford's character is basically like, you don't have to, the options aren't don't feel the feeling or feel the feeling.

You can just feel the feeling for five minutes at a time.

Put on a five minute timer, put on a song, even that's going to last for the amount of time that you have.

And for the duration of that song, for the

just let it rip.

Just let yourself feel every single piece, aspect, depth of that emotion.

Let yourself feel furious.

Let yourself feel sad and the sense of injustice.

Let yourself feel disappointed.

You have five minutes to just let, just to open the gates.

just to go.

This technique may sound slightly like avoidance because, you know, you're only limiting how long you can feel the emotion for, but I think it addresses, again, the biggest reason we don't want to feel anything at all.

We're worried that once we let the feeling in, like they're the captain now, we're never going to be free of it.

But this exercise just continues to show you, like, I'm in control, I am the feeling, and the feeling is me, and if I just give it space to have its tantrum, to have its moment,

It's not going to overwhelm me.

I don't have to spend my entire days, all my life suppressing an emotion if I just give it its appointment and let myself feel it in that second, in those minutes.

Okay, I have three more methods for you, but we do need to take one more short break.

I'm sorry.

We will be right back.

So giving your emotions a standing appointment definitely works.