Gemma Spake

A fun fact also about emotional granularity, if you have high emotional granularity,

so you can label more emotions, this may seem very obvious, but you are also better able to read other people and you're better able to guess their emotions from very minor facial expressions.

So also a good asset socially.

When we have the label for what we're feeling,

when we've pushed past the initial emotional guard, then we can actually start like the processing part to all of this, which annoyingly actually begins with just like kind of doing nothing, like just micro dosing the feeling and learning to sit with it.

Like processing emotions is incredibly boring work.

The easiest way to do it is just to sit with your emotion, but also just to give your emotion standing appointments of five minutes.

This is a method that I heard about when I was at uni, but I recently saw it displayed in an episode of Shrinking, which, oh my God, best TV show on the planet right now.

Love this show.

In it, like, quick summary, because I'm, like, their number one fan.

The, like, it shows this guy.

He's, like, a therapist.

He's also a dad.

And his wife has died.

And he is the therapist.

Like, he is the person that he kind of needs.

But his life is falling apart.

And he's basically trying to get through, you know, the grief of losing his wife and trying to take care of his daughter.

Whilst he's also trying to take care of people in, like, the worst moments of

of their lives um super funny Jason Segel's in it um Harrison Ford's in it a bunch of other great actors are in it that's besides the point they need to cut me a check for all the time I talk about this tv show but in