Gemma Spake

How would people describe you?

Like if I could tell like if I could maybe crack like your social security code or like your social security questions from your Hinge profile or your Tinder profile you've done a great job.

Think of your profile not as a resume but as a filter for people applying for you.

Even include some of your deal breakers on there if you'd like.

Like that leave a comment one.

That's a great one to kind of like see if someone aligns on your values.

Like leave a comment if you prefer an alcohol free first date.

Leave a comment if you have no desire to go camping.

Leave a comment if your mum is the first person you're going to call after our first date.

I love that one.

It's a filter again for them applying to you.

Also, and I feel like this goes without saying, use better photos.

And if you want to be successful on the dating apps, get your friends to choose your photos for you and then get them to arrange them for you as well.

Like get them to choose every single photo.

Trust me, this is honestly one of the things I did.

And it's the tip that I give people the most frequently.

I'm not an expert, like meeting somebody on a dating app doesn't make me an expert, obviously, but I will say my profile was always the most successful when I let my friends put it together and choose my pictures for me.

Why?

Because I think we often don't perceive ourselves in the most flattering or realistic way.

And the photos we choose, I've often found this reflect countless unconscious reflections on insecurities that we've had for years.