Gemma Spake

What does it mean to be able to cry when you want to cry?

and experience joy when you want to experience joy be disappointed when you want to be disappointed and I guess like really just exploring why that's actually a gift and we shouldn't be afraid to process emotions in a way that maybe is a little bit ugly and I guess how we do that in the first place so without further ado let's get into how to actually process your emotions.

To begin with, how can we identify when we are becoming detached from our emotions?

And how can we identify when we are not processing our emotions in a sustainable way?

Because I think sometimes it's not that obvious, right?

When we're attached or I'm sorry, detached from our emotions though, I think things just feel flat.

Like we don't feel sad.

We also don't feel happy.

I've sometimes like heard this described as like the world is a little bit

It's fuzzy, right?

You don't seem to feel your pain in its fullest form, but you also don't feel your happiness in its fullest form either.

You're like existing in the middle frequency of your feelings.

Sometimes we're very aware that this is the case.

And sometimes, like, I don't want to say we enjoy it.

But I don't know, we rely on it or we just don't have the capacity to fix this numbness.

Like after you've been through a big breakup or you've lost your job or you've had a really traumatic incident, you probably know you should be feeling things on a deeper level.

You know you should be grieving or anxious, but it is like this emergency part of your body switches off and you don't necessarily know whether it would be better to switch it back on again.

People can last like years in the state of numbness, even after the original situation is like well in the past.

Even after the thing is like, even if it looks like they've eerily been coping all along, what's actually happening is that the emotions are like, they're still sitting in the emotional waiting room.

They are yet to be processed and they need to be processed to be moved out of that waiting room.