Gemma Spake

You have to be kind.

You have to be interested in aligning your life paths.

But, you know, the things that get assessed on Hinge, on Tinder, on Bumble are just completely opposite to any of that.

They ask you, you know, what's your height?

What's your star sign?

Give me as many hot and interesting pictures or funny pictures of you as you can find.

Then they overwhelm you with choice so that anyone who actually is good gets drowned out if they don't immediately capture your attention through very shallow means.

They also get overwhelmed back.

And so they never message you back that everybody's getting ghosted.

Like, you know, those educational videos is going to be so different to what I was just talking about.

But, you know, those educational videos were like the sperm is like getting to the egg.

And it's like this race of like and it's meant to show you that when you're in high school, how slim your chances were and everything.

how competitive it was and how lucky and rare it is to be alive.

That is genuinely what I think it feels like being on the dating apps these days.

It feels like your chances of meeting somebody is like you're in a race with these thousands of other potentials and you want to make the match.

I know that sounds very doom and gloom and we're being very pessimistic about dating apps, but despite all that, like I do still think they work.

I met my

partner on hinge a lot of my friends have met their partners on hinge they work if you have a strategy and I think that they my friends have found success for some very specific reasons that people can copy there is a specific mindset you have to have when you enter the dating app realm and

that I think is going to ensure you success more than if you just go in there randomly.

And that is exactly what I'm going to share with you today.