Gemma Spake

There's so much research that

does also show that this isn't, again, this isn't a conscious thing.

Sometimes our minds will unconsciously blunt or numb our emotions for us so that we can endure hard situations and so that our immediate survival isn't compromised by the intensity of our sadness or the intensity of our grief, our outrage, our loneliness, and the irrationality of those emotions sometimes.

The fact that they cause us to sometimes do things we don't want to do.

The issue is that all

off switch isn't selective.

It's very rudimentary.

It doesn't just shut down what our brain sees as compromising or bad emotions.

It's just going to shut down everything.

Meaning that

All those positive feelings we still very much want to feel get dialed down, get diluted for us also because our mind is preventing us from feeling the bad feelings.

The good feelings come along with it.

When something difficult or traumatic happens or when numerous really frustrating, hard situations occur all at once,

Our nervous system is basically just like an overwhelmed worker.

Like it just can't cope.

There's this amazing book called The Inner World of Trauma and the author of that book describes this phenomena very, very well where he says, we are all given more to experience in life than we can experience consciously.

So like our brain cannot fathom everything that we have to go through.

Emotional numbing is one of the ways that our brain, our minds have adapted to endure it.

Remember, your brain, your mind doesn't care if you are fulfilled.

Like at a fundamental level, it doesn't care if you are happy.