Gemma Spake

Those very tips for being successful in the dating apps.

Without further ado, let's jump into them.

Let's see how we're going to survive this kind of new dating system that we all operate in.

Stay with us.

Let's not waste any time here.

Let's get right into tip number one.

If you want to be better at surviving, managing the dating apps, you need to number one, understand the psychology behind why and how dating apps work and specifically how they make money.

This will transform your relationship to the platform.

And by changing your relationship to the platform, this will change the relationships that you have on them.

I said it before, I think dating apps aren't designed to be effective.

They're designed to be addictive.

They deliberately give this impression that the perfect relationship can be discovered.

rather than made and built and they do this by providing us with all these matches and all this arbitrary information essentially convincing you that like your job right now is to pick you've just got to pick and you've got to make sure it's the best one

They're manufactured to sell you this narrative that you're kind of always one swipe away from someone better than the person before.

You're always one swipe away from the one.

And that keeps you picking up the phone again and again because love is like such a delicious promise.

All of us want it.

And it means that we carry on the search despite sometimes matching with people that are like really nice.

and people that we really click with.

But the possibility of more that is offered by this like endless kind of vacuum of people means that we don't always prioritize those people.