Gemma Spake

And you've also already cleared like the first three barriers that dating apps usually put up as well.

You know, having to match, having to talk, having to make plans.

You skip all that.

You're already on stage four.

And just that shared context as well can make closeness feel much more natural, much quicker because there's less pressure to perform.

If you're serious about surviving the dating apps, I think my message here is don't become dependent on them.

Don't let their dominance limit how you think people meet and fall in love because there are still offline love stories.

I promise you, yours could very easily be the next one.

I'm sensing it.

Okay, we're going to take one more short break.

But when we return, I have two final tips for you.

So stay with us.

This is probably my least practical tip of all, but my most important.

Tip number six, take absolutely nothing personally.

Nothing.

Commit to being as stoic as possible about the losses.

Dating apps generate, again, an extraordinary amount of ambiguous social feedback.

It might be a match who never replies and you assume that that says something about you, or someone who's really enthusiastic and then you go on one date and you never hear from them again, even though you thought it went really well.

And this ambiguity is naturally very confusing for our minds.

that kind of doesn't know where to store that information.