Gemma Spake

I think a lot of us are sitting at this central frequency of emotion.

We feel every emotion, but we feel it at like 50% or we kind of only feel the emotions that influence us to a

a mid-range we want to see and feel every single peak and trough and again to summarize what that involves is understanding your coping mechanisms what are the ways that you are detaching from your emotions through work through escapism through intellectualizing and then also understanding your emotional bodyguards for every deep emotion that feels painful or maybe shameful to feel

there's going to be a corresponding emotion that feels more appropriate to feel like anger, like jealousy, like shame, like nothing, like numbness.

You process your emotions by being able to identify what that feeling actually is, which is a distraction and being able to move through that primary feeling through somatic release, through art, through whatever means so that you can really get to the deep core of

Why do I feel this way?

And beyond an explanation, can I feel this way?

Can I just let myself sit in the discomfort of being alive and know that sometimes that doesn't need an answer?

I feel like this is the thing we've been getting to all day.

What does it mean to process your emotions?

It means being okay with not knowing why something is happening, but just knowing that you are feeling it and letting that be kind of part of your experience.

That's my opinion.

That's my opinion, at least.

You can disagree.

Maybe it means something else to you, but I think that's all I have time for.

I feel like I've said the word feeling about 50 million times, so I need to take a breath after that.

But I do hope that this episode has been informative.

When I learned about like emotional bodyguards, my life changed.

I genuinely was like, oh my God, I have so much about who I am as a person is explained because I used to be so angry.

And I was like, why am I such an angry, irritated person at times?