Gemma Spake

I was like, oh, because that's like the only way I know how to feel anything.

So maybe that's a realization you've had from this episode as well.

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The story I told myself can then shape my behavior, and that can lead me to sabotage the possibility of connection.

Hello everybody, I'm Gemma Spake and welcome back to The Psychology of Your 20s, the podcast where we talk through the biggest changes, moments and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology.

Hello, everybody.

Welcome back to the show.

Welcome back to the podcast.

It is so great to have you here back for another episode.

Today, we are talking about a very insidious part of our 20s, the pressure to be extraordinary.

The pressure to be the best, to be the wunderkind, to be the star.

This idea that if we don't make it big now in our 20s, we will never have what it takes.

This feeling follows us around everywhere.

And I personally think that

It destroys a lot of our organic love for so many things and it destroys our ability to be truly curious and truly passionate during a time in our lives when that is like our number one asset.

I cannot be the only one who feels this implicit sense that we are all in this race.

And we are all losing at the exact same time.