Gemma Spake

Last month, me and one of my friends had a small falling out after she showed up two hours late to my birthday dinner to go on a date with a guy.

A second date, might I add.

I expressed I was angry, and then she proceeded to not talk to me for three days, but did speak to our other friend.

We semi-made up, but she didn't exactly apologize, and then flash forward to last weekend.

I call up the girls to see what their Saturday plans are.

And the friend who remained neutral tells me that they are on a trip together with two of our other friends in New York City.

And they had simply forgotten to tell me.

I was devastated.

We do literally everything together.

And they know that going to New York was a dream of mine since even before we met.

They said they made the plans in the three days me and my other friend were fighting.

I hate to admit it, but I lost my cool and we haven't spoken since.

I can tell I've been blocked from seeing their Instagram stories and I'm feeling so lost, angry, devastated and hurt.

Please, any advice?

Am I in the wrong or how do I salvage this friendship?

I think this dynamic is the perfect example of what we're going to talk about today.

And I think to give the listener a little bit of advice to begin with, like, your reaction to both those situations of firstly your friend not showing up to dinner and then this trip, like, that's fair to me.

The exclusion, like, honestly, at this point feels deliberate, especially since you said you'd made up in the meantime.

You said you'd been talking to them in the meantime.

And you are the one...