Gemma Spake

I do want some kind of apology.

I do want some kind of acknowledgement.

But it doesn't mean that we can't get over this.

Everybody in this situation, and I think this is what friendship trues, and friendships in general, every single one of them will acquire this at some point.

Somebody needs to swallow their pride.

And if they do acknowledge it and they sincerely apologize, don't forgive them straight away.

Go away for a few days.

See how you feel.

Has that apology helped?

What kind of changes are you expecting?

What is going to be the line you don't want crossed?

And move on from there.

If they don't apologize, if the radio silence continues, if they don't take accountability...

I'm sorry, but I just don't think it's in your hands anymore, and I think that's nice that you know you tried, you were the one who was the bigger person.

Maybe you just need to let the friendship rest for a bit.

Nobody else can draw that line for you, but I think some red flags that often signal that the trio is doing more harm than good

are when you do feel chronically left out.

You do feel really anxious rather than excited or happy before seeing them.

After spending time together as well, you know, you regularly leave feeling smaller than when you arrived.

You feel ganged up on, you feel belittled, you feel isolated.