Gemma Speck

People have also been observed retelling the experience, and this is awful, but as if it's something they wanted, as if they were in control, when actually they weren't.

It's something that their brain is doing to make them feel less, I hate this word, but like victimized.

Sometimes enduring betrayal is about survival and you cannot blame yourself for what you did to survive.

You just can't.

What else were you meant to do?

I want to circle back for a second to that last thing we spoke about just before that.

Do manipulative people work?

know they're manipulative, or more specifically, what does it look like inside the mind of somebody who betrayed you?

What's going on in there?

This is such a common thing that comes up.

Literally a week ago, less than a week ago, I was speaking to one of my friends about this and about a situation that they've been going through.

And we were having this whole discussion of like, how could somebody do this to me?

How, how?

We just kept coming back to it.

And the thing is like, you may never know because your mind operates in such a different way to them.

You would never do anything like that.

That's why you cannot empathize.

The question like, why would anybody do this requires empathy.

It requires you to have some understanding of how that person's mind works.

And in that moment, it's obvious that it works so differently that it's almost impossible to gain access to.