Gemma Speck

This person didn't mean that.

I heard them wrong.

I got the wrong facts.

Part of you still is feeling it, but wants to preserve the story you know so well.

The story that people can be trusted.

Stage three, that's when we get to obsession.

This is the most confusing and painful stage.

The rumination, the hunt for more information sets in.

It becomes all-consuming.

This is when also your brain starts to be like, maybe it was our fault.

What could we have done to stop this from happening?

This is when your brain starts to be like, friends, family, what did you see?

What do you know?

Confirm, deny anything.

you might have like i need to know it's a hunt i would honestly say especially if you've been cheated on um don't go hunting for more information unless it's like absolutely necessary like a legal case like knowing too much about a betrayal might seem like it's going to make you feel better because it's going to offer closure

I think it actually just gives an already terrible situation even more detail.

And that stuff can be really difficult to unsee.

It can cause so much pain further on or later on, I should say.

It's up to you.

Like some people do process pain.