Gemma Speck

And in it, she talks about the most, like, I love that she stole the spotlight.

She talks about this moment when he told her when she could almost see relief in his eyes.

relief of like thank god I don't have to keep that in anymore thank god I can talk about this openly and she talks about that moment of like you took off like the backpack of your shame of your mistakes of your bad behavior and you were like oh can you carry that now

your turn.

And she had to keep it.

That is an amazing way of describing it and describing of how you suddenly realize and when you suddenly realize, oh, that was not a nice thing for you to do.

And you were in the wrong.

Stage five.

When you hit stage five, bargaining, you might find yourself really trying to

I think it's kind of like a slight reversal, right?

If you can see, a lot of this is three steps forward, two steps back.

This is another stage of trying again to shove this experience into your worldview and bargaining about what if they only did it once?

What if they didn't really know what they were doing?

What if I did give them a second chance?

What if I'm overreacting?

Again, this is not a sign to like return to them or to prematurely forgive them.

This is just how your brain is adjusting to the situation and trying to figure out the puzzle that is within you and trying to figure out the puzzle that is the situation and how to feel okay again.

So it's totally normal to be bargaining before you end up in the final stage.

Well, the second final stage of like the grieving process, which is mourning.

You had anger, you had sadness, you had denial, bargaining.