Gemma Speck

You can start relating to it as a reflex.

Every time you hear that self-hatred kind of bubble up, you have to say to yourself, like, this is not factual.

This is just a bad lesson that I was taught.

This is just incorrect information I was taught.

I know better now.

The second thing is just to get super rational.

Look outward.

Again, try and find just one example, just one of self-hatred actually helping somebody realize their dreams and enjoy their dreams.

Honestly, I have been like racking my brain for weeks trying to think of an answer and

the only thing I can ever come up with is people who like, who present self-hatred as something that I actually had to overcome and they now reflect on, not something that helped them.

I think a lot about like the people in, this is so random, but in Biggest Loser who like hate themselves, get on the show, lose the weight, still hate themselves.

Literally just think of the most inspirational person who you admire more than anybody in the

you most admire, hate themselves into becoming who they are?

Do you know anyone whose life genuinely improved over time because they maintained a running commentary of

disgust and humiliation and self-loathing about themselves?

Has it ever made anybody more creative, more open-hearted, more resilient, more talented?

If you can find evidence for it, I would love to know, but I just don't think there is any.

Self-hatred survives partly by pretending, again, to be practical and

And self-serving.

And that's how it persuades us to keep it around.