Gemma Speck

That was the first time.

So you're probably in your 20s, maybe your 30s.

You have heaps of time.

And I think it literally goes to show as serious as I'm speaking about this, it is also reversible.

The first thing to really ask yourself is who does this voice actually serve?

Because

You now know for sure it doesn't serve you, right?

You have all the evidence that this isn't benefiting you.

I'm not asking where did it come from.

That is an important question, but not the question we're asking right now.

I'm not asking why does it sound so convincing.

I'm asking who does it actually serve in this state and moment in your life.

Does it help you become more honest?

Is it helping you become more connected?

Can you give me any evidence that self-hatred has gotten you anywhere?

Or does it keep you small, obedient, ashamed, hypervigilant, apologetic, easy to control?

Because despite how convincing and real these voices are, they're often just evidence, again, of how our brains have been trained to please, trained to make others comfortable and

Not how we actually should be.

And if that voice is not serving you, you actually don't need to listen to it.

You don't need to keep treating it as gospel.