Gemma Speck
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6,373 appearances
17 recordings
1 series
first heard Jan 2026
last heard 13 Jun
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From a more psychological angle, like there is a reason
why we find ourselves so hooked on people we know we can't have.
The very fact that we cannot have them is what deepens this obsession so much, and there's science and evidence to prove why that is.
It may feel like
so frustrating and annoying and heartbreaking at times but I think understanding the biological underpinnings of this the social underpinnings the psychological underpinnings is really important so that's what we're going to talk about today as well as some strategies to kind of move through this situation of unrequited love and to essentially understand like
why you have found yourself perhaps in a pattern of wanting people who don't want you because there is a lot to be said about our motivations behind this and why we end up finding ourselves in these relationships maybe all too often.
So without further ado, let's get into it.
If you want to understand why we want the people who don't want us, you have to understand the psychology and more specifically, the biology of the chase.
At its very core, our attraction to somebody else
is not just emotional, it is a deeply chemical experience driven by some powerful neurotransmitters you're probably very familiar with.
Things like dopamine, serotonin, adrenaline, just to name a few.
When we first meet somebody and feel like a romantic sensation kind of blossoming, our brain is just like flooded with feel-good chemicals and feelings which tell us to pursue this person, fixate on them, think about them, win them over, make them the object of our desire.
We have a natural biological drive towards love because we are social beings and we crave partnership.
We crave being seen.
We crave creating these strong bonds.
Now, when the person reciprocates our feelings, we have a fabulous equation where the chemicals are flowing steadily from both sides, from them to you, you to them.
There's no confusion.
We're just rewarded by their behavior.
And you're rewarded by what it feels like to belong and feel, I don't know, chosen by somebody.
This feels good.
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