Gemma Speck
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6,373 appearances
17 recordings
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first heard Jan 2026
last heard 13 Jun
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This belief transfers over to relationships as well.
If it's easy, it's not worth it because things that are quality make you work harder.
So that's why we don't want the person who wants us.
They didn't make us work hard for it.
We want the person who obviously has value because it's not immediately accessible.
That doesn't apply to love though, right?
Our mind is taking a standard we set for everything else and being like, well, this must be the same here.
Love is something that is actually and should probably flow very naturally compared to everything else in life that makes us really work and strive and sweat.
There's also this concept in psychoanalytic psychology that I really think you should know called the object of desire.
This was first discussed by a French psychologist called Jacques Lacan.
Hopefully my French accent is good.
His idea is that when we see something we can't obtain, whether that is an expensive house on Zillow, a lifestyle of an influencer, or a person who we think is great, we
we begin to project this idea that this is where happiness, self-worth, fulfillment must be.
This thing, this is the thing that would make us happy.
And the fact we don't have it is why we're unhappy.
It kind of gives us a reason for our insecurity.
a reason for our sadness, our lack of fulfillment that isn't internal.
It's not because we're doing something wrong.
It's not because we're unhappy.
It's because we're missing this thing.
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